Would you take a pill to banish heartache?

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I’m in love with someone who is unavailable. I think he feels the same way about me but we have been as true as possible to our partners and not even discussed our feelings for each other.

My question is, if there was a pill that could take away all the pain, grief, sorrow and heartache, would you take it? I want the pain to stop yet I don’t want to stop loving him because it’s such a beautiful, pure, good feeling.

You need to grow up. Leave your partner if your in 'love' with someone else and go take a cold shower. So pathetic.

I take Prozac so yes.

I don’t want to stop loving him because it’s such a beautiful, pure, good feeling.

And what about your partner?

It’s not beautiful and pure, it’s sleazy and underhand.

I hear ya @DustyMaiden

I think most people would take such a pill, provided it didn't have too many side effects. Like making you completely unable to feel love. Although perhaps many people would take such a pill too.

"it’s such a beautiful, pure, good feeling"
This is just a quirk of evolutionary biology. For some reason your brain has decided you should have kids with him, and is generating all sorts of feel good chemicals to hopefully make this happen.

Its pure? It's beautiful?

I am sure your partner would agree when they find out you are so wrapped it up in the fantasy of someone else.

You are being ridiculous. You have exploded this into far more than it is and made it into some tragic love story and started to believe it. It's not special, you arent unique.

Oh yes, not for myself, but to force-feed others .

Ugh grow up:
To answer your question no I wouldn't. Our heartaches and pains are part of personal growth. We learn from them and they make us who we are.
I feel sorry for your partner though.

Are you for real? It’s not pure if you’re both with other people. Sort yourself out and stop being a liar. Let your poor partner go and find somebody who can treat them decently. You awful person.

You've not even discussed your feelings for each other?

No I wouldn't take a pill. I'd deal with my life. Start by leaving your partner.

There you go op.... mumsnet has told you!!

Leave your partner. You’re not being fair to him or yourself. If you have feelings so strong, for someone else, your current relationship is doomed.

Move on.

Yes but for different reasons. I'm trying to move on from an ex and really struggling with it.

Your poor partner, imagine how you would feel if it was your partner feeling so strongly about another person? Would that still be pure and beautiful? Your being unfair to your partner by staying with them whilst emotionally allowing your heart to be somewhere else.

No, because if you actually deal with the emotions it helps you to grow and find a new appreciation for love. But this situation you describe sounds very much like romanticism not love. You seem taken with the 'tragic starcrossed lovers' concept - the idea that it's all so painful because of an unusually profound 'love'.

It's a tale as old as time, I'm afraid, so many people committing infidelity (and you are whether you're fucking this person or not) buy into it because it justifies their behaviour in their mind. Also it's dramatic and exciting in a certain way. None of this is love.

Two completely different things. 1. Without sorrow how would joy feel? 2. Stop thinking about your crush. It's not as wonderful as you think