How to deal with splitting up when DH doesn't want to

[Grandadwasthatyou]

I have been thinking for months now about splitting up from DH of 15 years and current events have made me feel even more sure of my decision. DH hasn't done anything wrong, I suppose I have just become bored, we have nothing in common anymore and even though I love him I am not in love with him.
He is devastated, doesn't want to separate, didn't see this coming and is crying all the time . I feel so sad that I have caused this. I have always put other people first, am considered a kind person and can't bear the thought that once we do split up there will be no need for me to ever see him again.

I don't know how to reconcile the conflicting emotions that I am having that I need to look after myself first for once in my life but at the same time I can't bear to think of him desperately unhappy which he will be.

Well, don't drag it out - you've already said it's over, so the kindest thing is to get on with it, and split things as fairly as you can.

It's going to be painful for both of you, but you'll heal and recover. Maybe in time you can have a friendship, but you need to be careful not to give him false hopes in the meantime.

Look after yourself. It’s your decision and if you are confident it was a right one, don’t look back. You both will hurt throughout the process but deserve to find happiness in a different set up