Would you leave the family home?

[astuckinthemud]

Hello. I hope you're all managing to get through this challenging time!
I'm hoping for some advice, me and DH are on the verge of separating, mostly my decision, neither party is in the wrong, we have just drifted apart over the last two years and I no longer love him or feel any attraction towards him. We have 2 boys.
I'm unsure whether we should sell the house (owned 50/50, no mortgage) or let him stay and buy me out my half. I don't feel that I can ask him to leave as its not like he has cheated or anything. Would it be best to sell and both get somewhere cheaper or let him stay in the family home? The boys would be 60/40 with me as I don't work but am looking to get a job. The only thing Im struggling with is that the boys will be living mostly with me so they will be leaving their home and spending only some of the time here, they are 6 and 3.
Any advice or insight would be helpful! Stay Safe

I could’ve written the first paragraph myself. I did leave the family home just over 2 years ago, but my 2 boys are grown up with their own lives. I left my ex with the house and he bought me out. I couldn’t have done the whole leaving thing if the boys were only 6 and 3. But everyone’s different.

I miss the house because I was there for 20 years, but I know I did the right thing, I have never once missed my ex, I’m much happier and a lot less stressed. My boys keep in touch but they live in different parts of the country.

You have to do what’s right for you, I didn’t consult anyone when I was making the decision to leave. It’s nobody else’s business, but yours.

@astuckinthemud This is exactly me. All apart from the having no mortgage bit - we do have a mortgage. I feel like this is the main thing holding me back from moving on, that I want to stay in the family home and keep the boys there in their home. I have no feelings for dh, he knows this, but he seems happy to go on as we are. I can't see how I can possibly ask him to go, so I feel like I'm stuck. I can't inflict such a change on the kids because of my 'feelings' it just doesn't seem fair. So is this it forever??? :(
I hope you find a way x

If it's an amicable conversation then it should run like...
So is one of us going to stay here and buy the other one out?
[Much as I'd love to stay,] I can't afford it, so what do you want to do, stay or sell up?

@astuckinthemud I’m in a similar position too.
I recently found out my DP is cheating on me but I’ve not yet let on to him that I know. Being locked down will make it very uncomfortable and the dcs are struggling a bit already.
I won’t be able to afford to stay in this house on my own. DH may be able to and certainly with his OW they will. I want to keep kids with me but would have to move away from this area to afford somewhere big enough for us all. Kids are settled in schools and I don’t want to take them away from their DF.
Or we both get somewhere smaller and split the kids.
No options are good but I can’t go on with a cheat.