Should I unblock him?

[Claire926]

Keeping it brief. A guy I know ignored 2 messages of mine, which the last one was left unread for over a week. I blocked him after 2 days as I felt upset and annoyed as he did not explain why he was ignoring me. Since then he keeps posting daily things in a communal WhatsApp group I'm part of. I hate fall outs, am I best to unblock him? I have no intention of contacting him but will have to see him a future functions with mutual friends.

A bit more context is required.

Is he just a friend? Do you fancy him?....Was the message you sent something that requires a response?

It is possible to miss messages at times too.

He was a friend and I secretly fancied him and he would flirt with me too. The messages could have been responded to. I blocked him as the whole corona virus hysteria was stressful and I didn't need to feel rubbish by being ignored by a friend too.

I’m so sick of this childish trend of blocking people without a valid reason. Someone ignoring 2 messages when you are on a group chat with them also is not a reason!

It doesn't seem long for him to have not replied particularly before you blocked, but obviously I don't know the details.

the last one was left unread for over a week

So it's not like he read it and then didn't reply for a week- he hadn't read it.

Your boundaries your choice- I do block 'friends' who I don't feel are making as much effort as me, but maybe after a longer period/more repeated crapness than this.

Were you messaging about something deep you considered could do with a speedier reply?

Has he said/done other stuff you found disrespectful?

Only you can decide this for you at the end of the day.

I know the whole blocking thing is childish and it's something I don't condone hence why I want to unblock. One message was personal which he read and should have had a response but it fell on deaf ears. The other one was an answer to question which 'thanks' would been enough. I usually don't have this problem with anyone else but don't see why I should allow someone to be disrespectful.

I wouldn't have blocked for your reasons. But as long as you can justify the blocking to yourself, who cares?

Don't you think you've given this guy far too much headspace as it is?

If you want to block someone, block them. It’s permanent, or supposed to be. Otherwise you would just ignore their messages/stop messaging them. Doing a blocking/unblocking dance is silly and embarrassing.

The point of unblocking him would be what exactly? You’ve had your dramatic flounce, unblocking is just more attention seeking.

I'd have no friends if they all blocked me for not responding within a week.
I am well known for not responding quickly though.

Definitely don’t unblock. Just makes you look crazy tbh. You’ve made your decision so stick with it (I wouldn’t have blocked him in the first place but I think blocking and unblocking will look unhinged)

Does he know that you have blocked him and will he know when you unblock him on WhatsApp (I don't use it myself)? If he isn't sending you messages, will he not be entirely unaware of what you do?

Not sure what the point was of blocking him in the first place. It’s not like he was harassing you or anything. He’s clearly not that interested though. Sure, unblock him.

He won't give a toss that you've blocked him. Probably hasn't even noticed.

The blocking is only affecting you.

You need to grow up, lower your expectations (why should he HAVE to respond to your messages? He probably intended to and then forgot because he doesn't think about you very often) and get a life which involves learning to grow your self esteem