Annoyed at inlaw

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Just wondering if other people think I am overreacting. So the other day I posted one of those light hearted games on FB.. you put a pic up of yourself and then write 'If my name wasn't my name what name would I look like" A few friends reply with lovely names but then my father-in-law replies with this...

Chlamydia 😷😂👍

Gobsmacked I deleted status, but it upset and angered me as it is not a funny joke

Your thoughts please? Thank you xx

Thank you for your honest opinions, many saying facebook is not great etc.. well this isn't great either in some ways. People think it's extreme for me to be upset.. maybe so, but I know for a Fact if some fella said the same to your daughter/granddaughter then you would be pissed off with someone talking to her like that. Just saying. Thank you for the people who didn't take the piss out of me

The answers were suppose to be other women's names lol not an S.T.D 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think if you post pointless attention-seeking nonsense you'll get nonsense back.

You actually cried?? Unless you have issues with emotional regulation you really need to get a grip

Veterinari this post is not attention seeking or nonsense. Issues with emotional regulation 😂😂 mental health problems you mean? Your empathy and intellect is somewhat lacking but my question Was to see if I Was Overreacting because yes I do have Bipolar Disorder.. so obvs my moods are not always 'normal' and I am sensitive to certain things. All I asked for was polite opinions if I was overreacting but instead many of you mocked me. Like I have all ready said.. For the people who have replied fairly wether they agreed or not with me.. Thank you

Sorry but I laughed, I think its funny.
I'm sorry you are upset by it, but I do think you are being oversensitive.

And if someone had made the joke about my daughter I would feel the same as if it had been said about my son! It's still a joke just a different sense of humor than your own I'm sure he didn't mean any disrespect. If that was really what he thought of you I don't think he would have said it on social media.

this post is not attention seeking or nonsense I think they were referring to your facebook post.

Hi 😊 I hope your ok op . We all have different scene of humours I would be half and half I would probably laugh but still find it an odd reply. I would of just replied with a laughing emoji and then put all my posts on private from him for the future x

But how can anyone get upset at that, it's just a joke after all ! Aren't we allowed to have a joke now... I know life is tricky at the moment, but we have to take humour in any way we can.

Your FIL isn't saying you have chlamydia, he's just having a joke. I feel a bit sorry for him TBH. He'll really have to watch what he says to you from now on.

Sorry OP but I had to giggle. I wouldn't take it personally at all.

Your FIL sounds brilliant to me - sorry. I’d have been a bit taken aback (mine is 75 though) - but shared it with my friends. I wouldn’t be upset.

Nope, for a fact if my DD didn't mind then neither would I. If she did mind I'd say the same, avoid posts that give people the chance to make personal comments, there is always a chance you won't like an answer.
The FB post was attention seeking and sometimes people don't like those sort of posts so will.put a funny put down.

It’s really not funny, it’s bizarre . What is meant to be the joke? I can only understand it as he is implying you’re promiscuous, or dirty or something - only you know if that’s so far from the truth that that is what’s ‘funny’ but it’s really inappropriate. Do you normally get on ok? I’d be upset too OP because it’s just such a weird (and public) insult. I’d block him.

If my FIL had responded to me like that I would be amazed, probably fall off my chair laughing and then call him a cheeky bastard.

It's just a difference in sense of humour. Try not to take it too personally. If he was going to attack you he probably wouldn't be doing it on a FB status.

I think if you post pointless attention-seeking nonsense you'll get nonsense back.

This

My knee jerk response was to laugh out loud. I’d see your FIL response as commentary on the ridiculousness of those types of posts.

It was ann unimportant, silly Facebook post, he posted a silly answer. I’d have laughed and said why! If he’d have put “because you’ve probably got it” I’d then have been upset! But seriously you need to perhaps grow up a little bit.

“Why thank you, Syphilis-in Law 😂😂😂”. Job done.

Also find the ‘copy and paste’, ‘just for fun’ and ‘light hearted games” on FB quite annoying and might give ‘chlamydia’ as my standard response now. - ‘syphilis in law’...

Those kind of games are very attention seeking and either compliment fishing, or else ‘yeah lets have a right old bantz’. A group of men playing this ‘game’ would immediately insult the hell out of each other.

It was wildly inappropriate for your FIL to post that, but at least you DH had it out with him. And he did apologise via your DH, but then it was DH who spoke to him. Had you fought your own battles he would have been speaking to you when he apologised.

He shouldn’t have done it but it’s gone, he now knows what’s what, and unless he is rude to you in other contexts, move on.

@Stpmumto2
You seem to have namechanged halfway through your own thread

this post is not attention seeking or nonsense.

I was referring to your FB post

Your empathy and intellect is somewhat lacking

Really? My empathy is lacking for people who post inane shite on FB and then cry because they don't get the attention they want - absolutely. I reserve my empathy for people with actual problems.

You also think I'm intellectually challenged? Firstly - that's a personal attack and so against mumsnet talk guidelines (not very smart!) Secondly - where is your evidence for that assumption or are you just name-calling? In which case I'm starting to see your FIL's point...

All I asked for was polite opinions if I was overreacting but instead many of you mocked me

No you did not ask for polite opinions - you asked for opinions. If you only want the opinions of people who agree with you I suggest that MN is not the place for you. Posters have mocked you because frankly your situation is of your own making and in case you haven't noticed, most people have bigger problems to focus on at the moment rather than 'empathising' with self-created FB drama.

Yes, I think you are overreacting. Granted, not everyone has the same sense of humour, but why would you take it so personally? If you've ever suffered from an STD, then I can understand why you might be a bit sore about the situation. If not, just ignore the comment. Thankfully your DH has spoken to your FIL, so he might think twice before commenting next time.

Yanbu. its very disrespectful. An STD isn't something you throw about.
Clearly he thinks you are a certain type.
What is funny about it. he thinks you look like an Std?