Married man across the road

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Is being very odd around me.
He started by always seeming to come out if his house just as I was putting the bins out or just tidying up my drive, people drop their litter her because of the nearby train station. On another occasion, he knocked on my door and had a bizarre conversation about another neighbour, I was polite, but he the. Told me that his Ring camera picked up everything, even activity by my house and records quite far, apparently.
Lately with lock down, I've seen him standing outside his front door, looking directly into my lounge. I'm now feeling very uncomfortable. Today he stood there and appeared to be filming with his phone.
I feel extremely uncomfortable and don't know what to do apart from keep my curtains shut

Can you set up a camera to film him doing it?

One in your lounge window with a blinking light?

Or go and ask his wife if there's a problem? Embarrass it out of him.

Go out and shout "OI! Are you filming me?!"

If you’re brave enough I’d walk towards him while he appears to be filming, saying, ‘Oh, it looks like you’re filming me. What does your wife think of you filming women putting their bins out? Are you some sort of weirdo?’

He’ll have to delete it.

Why would you assume he’s filming you? Couldn’t he be watching something on his phone? It sounds like you’re getting wrapped up in a man speaking to you about another neighbour, once! I don’t know why you’re assuming he’s staring into your lounge unless he’s quite close, what could he actually see from across the road?! I’m just looking across my street now and I certainly can’t see much of my neighbours, just the outline of their curtains. Could you just be daydreaming, chatting on headphones, smoking or something? I don’t understand why it’s such a big drama

People always used to have net curtains precisely to stop people being able to look in the windows. For some reason they have fallen out of fashion. Would that be an option?

Or of course you could always take a photo of him standing there taking a photo of you.

In the longer term, you might need to report him to the police for being a pervert.

Don't let him intimidate you in your own home, be prepared to get the police involved if he continues.

You can get reflective film for your windows as a practical measure.

Contact 101 and speak to the police. He needs a stern warning to cut it out. Log all incidents as evidence. He'll probably back off with a warning.

Talk to the police. I had this years ago - I tried confronting him but he refused to answer the door (I could see him lying on the floor of his lounge filming me).
When I went to the police, the male police officer I talked to waved me off, said it was nothing, even when I asked him whether he'd like it if the bloke was filming his wife/sister/daughter (this was in the 80s)
Luckily there was also a female officer who overheard so she went round and had a firm word.

Iv has issues with my neighbours started by leaving notes on my car not to park outside there even tho they have two cars ones left outside mine and the other one not outside theirs but my neighbours . I don't get why they don't work outside their house so I used to park there . They keyed my car twice . Took stuff off my partners van and in a few occasions have come out and abused me . Her husband even cake up to me in my car and flicked a rolled up reciept in my face . Her husband then filmed me when I was laying on the sofa from his bedroom then when my partner was working away stood in his bedroom window naked and wouldn't move because he knew I was there . Now they didn't know me well enough to know I don't put up with a lot of shit so lost it big time . They phoned the police but they sided with me . Anyways after them both finding out the hard way not to piss me off no more they no longer do anything and haven't parked out side my house in months . I have installed two cameras tho . One pointed at their gate and one at my car . Get a camera garantee you it will stop immediately xxx

Ugh! I wouldn't like that either.

@inacheeseandpicklesandwhich That's awful- good for you. xxx

12345kbm, is definitely on to it, very good advice, that’s what I’d be doing. This chap is a pest at best, gotta get him stopped.

If you feel threatened or intimidated by his behaviour simply call the police.

I really do think police is the option I should take. But I've been bullied since I've been living here. It started with parking, people literally wanton to park on my drive, the. In front of my drive, blocking me in etc. My next door neighbours have had a campaign running against me for years now. The women in my street are either unpleasant and rude, or frosty and blank me. The men behave disgustingly. The man across the road is just one example. There is another man who used to leave messages on my windscreen, until the man I'm dating saw him, and confronted him. I've already had the police involved because one of the neighbours shouted at my autistic son, and drove into the back of my parked car.
I hate living here, wish I could move. They don't stop the harassment, they just seem to change tact. This is on,y some of what has been going on. I've posted about this before, and have had the usual answers ranging from it must be you who is the arsehole, to it must all be in my imagination
I'm tired of all the crap
And before anyone says it, no, I don't think I'm special. And no I'm not a special snowflake. And no I'm not mentally ill.
It's just exhausting

I'm sorry to hear people are pointing the finger at you; that's victim blaming and not on. You sound like the scapegoat of the (estate?) area. This needs a broader strategy.

Log all the incidents that you can remember. Date/Time started-finished/Incident/How it made you feel/Evidence- witnesses.

For example, March 10 2019 11:12 am Note left on my windshield. It made me feel harassed and frightened. Witnesses by boyfriend who spoke to the perpetrator. Note kept as evidence.

Longer term is finding somewhere else to live. If the house is Local Authority or Housing Association go their complaints process, get your Housing Officer involved.

Contact Shelter for advice on your rights and have your contract to hand.

Contact the police and contact them every single time there's an incident in order to build evidence. Add crime reference numbers to your incident sheet.

You're a victim of harassment and there may be other issues such as hate crime involved if they have harassed your disabled son. Check this out for more info.

Bring it to the attention of the resident's association.

See if you can get an exchange via the council/HA or do a home swap.