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Annoyed with my husband..

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Pissoffcorona · 05/04/2020 09:21

It’s my daughters 5th birthday today.. my husband is still in bed and she has been up and opened all of her presents with me and her sibling.

He’s still in bed because he never went to bed until 4am as he stayed up and got drunk.

He works away but due to the coronavirus he has been home 13 nights, 4 of them have been spent with him getting drunk, not coming to bed until 2,3,4am and then being a grumpy arsehole the next day

Am I just being the grumpy arsehole here or is he in the wrong?

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Deathraystare · 05/04/2020 10:43

I thinik you know the answer.

Enjoy your daughter's birthday with her. Ignore the useless twat. He won't get this time back with her, will he?

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Pissoffcorona · 05/04/2020 11:01

No he won’t.. he’s sulking with me because I never woke him up. The kids were being loud so he would have heard them, just looking to blame me so he doesn’t look bad

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EKGEMS · 05/04/2020 11:28

He's a shit father and husband and has an unhealthy relationship with booze (and most likely an alcoholic)

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Pissoffcorona · 05/04/2020 12:15

I agree about the unhealthy relationship with booze but I just don’t know if I would call him an alcoholic..

He won’t have a beer every night, he just has a binge probably twice a week resulting in him being extremely drunk. Is that still an alcoholic if it’s not every day?

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category12 · 05/04/2020 12:33

It's certainly "problem drinker" territory. Twice weekly binges are not normal.

Mumofboysngrls · 05/04/2020 12:51

I'd be annoyed too.
I would explain to him you are not his mum and if his daughter's birthday (which is prob a hard one for her given the current circumstances) meant anything to him he would have set an alarm and not stayed up so late in the first place.

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Pissoffcorona · 05/04/2020 13:24

Yeah I definitely think he has a problem with alcohol, he obviously refuses to admit he does

He’s still sulking with me and hasn’t said a word. I’m late twenties and he is late thirties.. I thought it was men around my age that were immature but clearly not

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billy1966 · 05/04/2020 13:38

Shit father, shit partner.

But you know this OP.

Protect yourself.

wonderrotunda · 05/04/2020 13:44

If he doesn’t have a problem with alcohol he won’t mind stopping for a few months if you both do it?

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Pissoffcorona · 05/04/2020 13:59

I know this Sad

I don’t drink at all unless I have a night out which is at least once every 2-3 months and he hates the fact I drink so little

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