Struggling to feel connected with my partner.

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In the last couple of months I've been really struggling to connect with MY OH.
We have 2 kids under 2, so we aren't very intimate anyway. I usually don't want to have sex and he makes comments about the lack of sex all the time so when we do have sex it's usually because I feel like I'm obligated to please him.
He says I don't have to do that, but if he meant that then he wouldn't bring it up all the time.

Apart from the lack of intimacy, we never spend time together doing anything fun. I feel like the friendship is dead, there's not really anything there anymore. We sometimes play a board game, but we don't often actually connect. He sometimes shows me memes that I don't think are funny at all and it gets quite annoying when he's trying to show me then every 5 seconds when I'm trying to play with the kids.
I feel like we don't even have any shared interests. The things I'm passionate about he thinks are dumb so I can't talk to him about them without him saying that they're wrong and he knows what's facts.
For context to that, I'm studying to be a homeopath and he thinks homeopaths are con artists that rip people off.
I'm quite spiritual too, but he says the things I believe are what crazy people believe. He didn't say that directly that I'm a crazy person, but when talking about others with similar beliefs to me he says that about them.
He is obsessed with his Xbox, everything seems to be about it. He doesn't do anything with his time apart from Xbox. He gets really angry at his games because he's bad at them and swears if one of the kids wakes up and he needs to help when he's gaming. He even hits himself and throws the controller when he's doing badly at a game. His Xbox is in the living room so the kids see all of this and it's a terrible example to them. But if I say that what he's doing is a bad example to the kids he just gets mad and says that I'm being unfair.

I love him, but I feel like I'm falling out of love without him because of all the problems. I feel like there would be someone better for me that's more mature and maybe someone that doesn't think that what I believe is dumb.

You really need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him all the thingsyou have said here about lack of intimacy and connection. If you want to save things and he does too then discuss how to get some connection and intimacy back. Handholding, goodnight kiss, ration the Xbox etc. some date nights- even at home if you don't have babysitters.

You seem very well aware of what is wrong. He seems to lack respect for your passions, who you are (homeopathy etc) and that leads to resentment and once real resentment sets in then love is rendered dead by thousands of little slights and annoyances. Is he prepared to loose your precious love and your family?

@SapatSea I'm not sure how to talk to him. Usually whenever I try it turns into a massive argument where he ends up screaming at me, says he'll make more effort and then doesn't. Then the whole thing gets blown under the rug and if I bring it up again in a few days if no effort is being made for improvement then he gets mad and says I'm not giving him enough time. It's not that hard to think of spending time with family instead of obsessing over when you get to next play games. I make sure I give him that that time everyday anyway for a couple of hours. So he does always get that time without children to play games.
It's when it's a work night for him and he starts complaining "ooh I won't get to play games for so long, it's going to be ages" just because there happens to be a couple of days where he can't because there's other things to be done. I don't whine all the time because I don't get to do my art everyday or even every week. It's very rare that I get any time at all where I don't have the children, but I don't whine like he does because spending time with them is more important than hobbies. I'm just tired of his constant talking about Xbox and acting like he's a teenage boy with no responsibility.
He seems to always think he's smarter than me too, because we have different beliefs on a lot of things (like homeopathy) he automatic thinks he's right and I'm less intelligent than him because apparently what I believe isn't scientifically correct. (We've only ever used homeopathy on our kids and it works every time). He just mocks it, and mocks any spirituality beliefs I have too. I'm not religious, but I don't believe there's nothing at all, and that death is the end of everything. But he thinks I'm stupid for believing that and that he's right because of science. When actually science hasn't proven anything about that because how can they?
I have no idea how to fix all of these problems, especially when he doesn't think any of them are problem.