Just been sent unsolicited picture

[CoronaVera]

Wasn't sure where to put this.

Am at home by myself and no-one IRL to talk to.

Someone I know who I have several mutual close friends with and I once upon a time - years ago - said that I had been attracted to, has totally unsolicited sent me a selfie with his top raised up and hand in his boxers.

Obviously I won't respond except to say, inappropriate, don't do that if he tries to engage again. I am single but don't want a relationship with this man, especially if he thinks this is cute or funny.

Just needed to vent. Feel shocked and it's interrupted my much needed day off from work.

Sadly this happens more often than you think. The police won't take it seriously, they don't even take physical sexual assault seriously sadly. I agree I think you need to block him.

Reply with a capital HAHAHAHA

Knock his ego down a bit

Well me being me I’d share it on Facebook for all to see to show him he can’t do that.

My colleague did this after being sent a similar photo (well a dickpic) but pixelated it. Idiot showed his face so she shared it. He was married too.

Stand up to him and show him you are not to be messed with.

Someone I met once - son of mother’s friend, who had been convicted on a rape charge and done time (and my mother and his were ADAMANT he was innocent), send me a dick pic on Facebook. After meeting him once. I was then convinced he was absolutely a fucking sex pest and probably was a rapist. So fucking weird. I replied “what the fuck” and he had to back down with “friend sent as a joke”.

Don’t let him
Get away with it! Just reply something which makes it clear this is not acceptable
To you.

Hey ——, listen, I get it. We’re all bored and trying to make each other laugh. Even then, this is not wanted. Unsolicited pics are never anything but cringeworthy.

i would be very careful.
does he know you are alone, in lockdown.
block, do not interact at all.
maybe archive the picture if poss with date time received.
if this turns into stalking you will need evidence.
keep back door locked and accessible windows.
he sounds like a pervert. could be dangerous.
do you have any strong male relatives/ neighbours whom you could confide in, in case he tries to approach. good luck.

Well, as it happens, my male neighbour tried it on with me a year or so ago. Had a good old fondle as he wished me a happy new year.

I really don't deliberately encourage these men. I probably am 'too nice'. I'm also autistic so perhaps don't quite pick up all the signals I should.

I could block but I regularly see this man in real life.

As per pp, this is more reason to block than not to. If you just accept the pushing boundaries in the spirit of "not making a scene", he'll know he can probably roll over your boundaries in person.

Had to read your message twice to see if I was missing something...... can't say this would bother me

Of course you can block. Seeing him irl does not mean he has to have your contact details.

If she’s on social media send it to his mum.

Put it as your profile picture for the day

Tell him not to visit his GP in person, but to call NHS111 and describe his symptoms, and recommend aloe vera to soothe the itching.

Haha re some of comments.

It's fair enough if it doesn't bother others but it bothered me.

I just had my first positive pregnancy test yesterday. I'm hopefully moving on with a new chapter in my life. I have a very stressful job in the NHS and this is the first day of my annual leave.

I just wanted to focus on me and my self care and chill. Not to have his semi naked body thrust at me completely out of the blue.

He hasn't responded again and neither have I. I expect he's found someone on an app willing to sext him. Won't be, and will never be, me.

I don’t think you could have missed some subtle sign that he was going to digitally flash you. He will get off on your uncomfortableness when you see him in RL.
Why do so many men do this. Do some women go ‘mmmm.... dick pic I’ll have some of that’ it seems unlikely.

I totally agree with @AttilaTheMeerkat. because this could be the start of stalking and you need to involve the Police via 101. Best to nip it in the bud right now.

Otherwise, you may not believe this, but the fact you didn't report to the Police initially might be used against you, should his stalking and harassment escalate.

I would forward it to all your mutual friends and tell him you've done it saying it must have been for one of them as it obviously wasn't for you. Let him wriggle out of that one!

He's obviously gone through his friends list and sent the same picture to multiple contacts who he thought he may have a chance of getting some lockdown sex/sex chat with.

Don't even bother replying, block him.
You don't owe him anything, least of all an explanation of why you are blocking and ignoring him.

Ignore and block. What difference does it make that you see him in real life???

What AgentJohnson said. It’s not the time to bother the police but he should know what he did was unacceptable and has consequences: one more strike and he’s shopped. Total tosser, I’m sorry this happened OP as you deserve far better.

IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE
That way he won’t get the satisfaction of a reaction. He might even wonder if you have seen it (or even if he knows you have seen the message he won’t know how much attention you paid to it)
Hopefully with no reaction that will be the end of it. If he persists, then block with no reply.

Do not reply. Ignore and block.
Even telling him to f off is a reaction that he might even like.
Don't engage

I would reply "Now wash your hands"

I would call 101 and discuss this with the Police. They are really the best people to advise here🙄🙄🙄

Or the OP could just act like an adult & deal with an unwanted photo herself.

Jesus wept, they’re a tad busy to get involved over a photo.

@CoronaVera. Personally I’d reply saying he’s obviously sent it to the wrong number, but as long as you don’t get any follow ups you will keep his mistake to yourself 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would just reply with a magnifying glass emoji...