I had a horrible marriage break up my ex was emotionally abusive for years and then had two affairs. It was a relief when we broke up but my heart broke for my dc who is now 6. A year after I met a man who was just wonderful to me and made me feel so special. We are now married with two dc of our own plus my dc. He treats my dc as his own but recently he just seems different. His patience with my dc hasn’t been the same just quite snappy and he has no tolerance for me or our two dc. It’s all came to a head tonight. He told me he can see why my ex cheated as I make him miserable too. He dreads coming home from work as I’m so bossy. He messaged an ex two months ago which I found out about and he begged forgiveness he is now saying that he did it cuz he doesn’t care about me (they aren’t together btw as she is pregnant to her partner). He said I make no effort anymore (I have six month old baby). When I had her the skin around my belly button has stayed saggy (3rd c section) he said this makes him sick. I just can’t understand what I do that puts men off me so much everything he says is what my ex said about me.
When I ask him how I nag he says that I keep telling him to wash his hands because of this Coronovirus which I do but he is a key worker and will come home after a shift and not wash his hands unless I remind him and the whole thing has me freaked out. He says I obcess over cleaning too much but then will Complain when the house is messy. I am so annoyed at myself for letting myself get involved with another man. I’m scared how this will effect my eldest as they are so fond of their stepdad.
And this time I can’t even blame him as it’s obviously just me being me that is the problem.