Do you think you can tell an abusive relationship by the break up?

[Fightingback16]

I’ve had two relationships.

First one 5 years, after a while I just didn’t love him anymore. I told him it’s over, he cried, I cried, I left and that was it.

Second one, I fled like a captive held in the basement. We all know the rest.

If you find yourself pondering afterwards like I have whether you maybe got it wrong, this kind of helps cement the truth doesn’t it?

Yes i think it does help, although both my past relationships had some abusive tendencies. One ended with me moving away (fleeing, much like yourself)

The other ended with a lot of tears but whenever I see her i want to scream at everyone how manipulative she is 🙈

You are spot on OP. This is EXACTLY how I would describe it

Not necessarily. I was in an abusive relationship and very surprisingly he didn't behave like a psycho afterwards.

I kind of meant the mammoth effort it takes to do and get to the break up, the safety planning or the fear. It seems that you can tell a healthy relationship from an abusive one by how you get to leave. If only you could fast forward to have a look at the end.