The Narcissist in lockdown

[fannycraddock72]

Not sure my ex has full blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder but they tick many of the boxes. I've been getting more text messages/phone calls than i normally would, not necessarily nasty, but annoying..such as "Remember to make the kids exercise everyday whilst they are with you etc" I ignore them mostly or reply with basic answers. I know to take the kids out for a walk, get them in the garden doing activities and the texts are a way to provoke a reaction.

The recent deluge of texts and calls got me thinking, it's hard enough for emotionally healthy people to deal with the isolation and lack of human contact, then a small smile came onto my face thinking about all those Narcs that crave attention and supply and the lack of it they are probably getting right now.

I also know that many of them are probably ignoring the requests to minimise travel etc..it's not in their nature to comply, they're far too important to comply. My ex has openly and almost proudly admitted to having many of the symptoms of the virus, yet still travels to see their DP 60 miles away, then comes back home after a few days to have the kids, and despite having very frail elderly parents with some pretty serious health conditions.

Also spare a thought for those OW/OM that are now isolating with the Narc oh boy what fun they must be having.

Thankyou @Tadda. I agree and I wonder if this is also the reason she will not come out again. In earlier times, apart from her anxiety issues, she had confided that things that NPD had told her he wanted from life when they were corresponding, had not eventuated once she moved in. Eventually, they married, no friends or family in attendance, and no girlfriend helping to pick the wedding outfit. He took her to a budget chain store to find an outfit.

Apparently she has confided in a store manager near where she works. I was approached by someone who knew the store manager and who lived locally at the time, to ask me (as the closest neighbour) if I thought she was in an abusive relationship. By that time I had stopped asking her out because I was frustrated at the lack of committal.

Finally, I hope my comments are helping someone else reading this thread, identifying what I think is an abusive situation. What I would like to say to you or my neighbour is that people do notice, we are here waiting for your signal to jump in and help. You just have to let us know you are not happy and want to make a change.