Heartbroken

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I know there is more important stuff going on right now, but I really need some help with getting over a guy who I am completely heartbroken over.
He is in a relationship so is totally off limits, has no interest in me (but did show it once one drunken night - this is what triggered it)
I miss him and think about him all the time, I am old enough to know better. But I can't help it, he's literally taking over my thoughts and making me really miserable. I've tried all the usual techniques to get him out of my mind but they haven't worked. This has been going on for about 5 months.
Starting to feel that this is permanent and I will always feel this way. I'm old enough to know better too so I really need to snap out of it.
any advice would be much appreciated

He's taken. You've got to force yourself to move on. Besides, just because he looks good on the outside, doesn't mean he'd be good to date. People only show what they want to show to friends and associates, that's until they're in a relationship where their true colours and bad habits start to shine.

Thanks @RLEOM that's part of the problem he does look very good on the outside, I know it's all very shallow really, we're not even well suited.
But I seem to have lost all sense of reason!

imagine if him and his girlfriend read this and laughed over it. keep imagining that.

Op, I’ve name changed for this

I’m in a very similar situation, except mine has made it clear that he feels the same. I am desperately trying to get him out of my head but I’m struggling. Have dreamt about him every day this week.

Feel free to pm

I could have posted this. Mine is only a month but I can't stop imagining who he's with and what he's up to. Tried so hard to get him out of my head. Keep failing. This guy is my ex and we were together for a short while. Sigh

Everyone at works 'loves' my dh but at home he can be a miserable sod and on his phone all the time. Not everyone who is good looking is particularly interesting. I know that sounds mean about my dh but it just annoys me work see the best of him and I don't. Think also, how you would feel if a partner cheated on you. Try and put yourself in his partners shoes.

Op I dont think you really no what love is in order to be heartbroken. And if you don't put this behind you as a one way crush then you might never find out either.

Sound like you didn't even date him, might have had a one night exchange at one point. Seriously - you know nothing about what he's like to be with.

And don't be mistaken - if he wanted to be with you, he would be.

The idea of him is filling a void and that’s why you are hanging on. It’s time to identify what that void is because if you don’t, you will continue to let the idea of this man to fill it.

You are not in love. This is lust probably driven by boredom.
Why not sign up to some online dating sights. Get to know some single men

Give yourself a certain time of day to think about him, then when the thought come, defer, distract, disract, as much as possible (exercise is good) until the allocated time. Then, think about him as much as you want.

Shorten the time each day.

Use this time, write a letter to him but don't send it and pour all your feelings out to him.