My marriage came to an abrupt end last summer. He wanted out of the marriage and met his now partner ( his words) at that time. The marriage was dead for a year or more. I was more of a mother than a partner to him and was resentful and tired of marriage with him. He lived his life free of the daily grind, parenting and house keeping.The respect and the love was well gone. I supported him for years to climb the ladder , both practically and financially. He left once he reached the top of his game .
I felt trauma as did our children. We moved by choice and have slowly been rebuilding our lives. I've had months of counselling and feel stronger now.Our home is happy now, no shouting, no criticising the children, no him irritating the children for a reaction. Harmony at last.
However, for him he has lost his job, his transport and perks. He is living rurally on his own and seems despaired.
His relationship with the two younger kids is excellent except for Our eldest who wants nothing to do with him.
He and his partner continue to see one another for three days per week, despite NHS restrictions. She has her own child who is with a childminder in another city while they are together and she travels to spend the time with him.
I don't think our children should really be with him under the circumstances. Covid-19 is rife where we live and where she lives. He is torn as he wants to be with her.they have chosen to continue to see each other which means he knows in conscience seeing the kids as normal is a bad idea.
My issue is that I feel really distraught and sorry for him and wonder why that is. I worry for his mental health now as he is isolated with no job, no money and no car and
Is living rurally What is wrong with me? I have no romantic feelings for him anymore and chat quite freely about her with him as the need arises.