How long till you had sex after baby?

[Crazydiamond106]

I have a 10 week old daughter and we still haven’t had sex...on top of that we didn’t have sex the last 2.5 months of pregnancy as it freaked him out that there was a baby in there (fair enough!).

Our daughter is also wakes every couple of hours in the night as I’m breastfeeding and obviously with lockdown there’s no babysitting / date night opportunities!

I just feel like our romantic side to the relationship has totally died...we’re getting on better than ever actually and he’s been amazing but it’s like we’re now kind of awkward around each other as it’s been so long.

I’ve talked to him about it and he’s very relaxed about it and says don’t worry we’re fine, it’ll happen when it happens...but I feel like it won’t unless we really try because we’re both so shattered. I don’t even know where to start. I feel like it would be weird with my daughter in the room so we’re looking at another 4 months till she’s not in our room unless lockdown ends and we can get my mum to babysit...

We don’t even change in front of each other anymore it’s gone really strange! He said he’s nervous because it’s been so long it’s like starting from scratch. I’ve nearly lost all the baby weight but still feel not very sexy with stretch marks and massive breastfeeding boobs! He said he is attracted he’s just got absolutely nothing left by the end of the day as we’re both so sleep deprived

Aww please don’t stress about it we felt the same and didn’t force it. In the end our baby was about 16 weeks by the time we managed it and I think that was right for us at the time

9 to 10 months (which we were both happy with).

It’s a few years ago now but I was advised by the midwife to try before the 6 week check so any issues could be raised.
However, although we did manage 😉, I would not have succumbed to pressure if I wasn’t ready.

Nine years and counting lol!

2-3 weeks with all 4 pregnancies , there was no pressure I healed quickly and felt ready. Everyone is different.

2 weeks. I couldn’t wait months though so everyone is different. Doesn’t really matter just do what you want

7 months with the first and 3 months with the 2nd. We also didn't have sex entire pregnancy due to complications which meant it wasn't advised.

Honestly, having a baby is hard. An extra 30 minutes of sleep was more important than sex in the early months. It was also really important that I sorted out my birth control first, which took til 5 and 3 months, respectively.