Verbal abuse?

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Not doing very well on this lockdown. My husband and I have had problems and almost split this year in February. However he and my mum persuaded me to give it another chance as he was heartbroken and the kids would suffer etc.
However I’m still not happy and this lockdown has made me realise it again.
After the spilt he was dream husband but he has gone back to ‘normal’ again.
He’s like a sex pest, always grabbing and referencing sex. He will get sulky if he doesn’t get it.
I’m asthmatic so obviously worried about going out so I’m staying in at all times advised by the doc. He has told me I’m being ridiculous. I’m currently on steroids for a few day’s due to having a bad chest and he said I’m making it up and lied to the doctor. He also has sprayed air freshener everywhere a few times now despite me arguing back that it aggravates my breathing. He said it’s my fault because the dog stinks.
My best friend has said it’s like actual verbal abuse and I need to leave.
What an actual mess I’m in! On the outside we look like the perfect family.

Psychological, verbal and emotional abuse.
Yes it is!!!!
If you have any chance of getting away then please do so.
It must be completely safe for you though.
You cannot put your health at risk right now.
You need to be around for your DC.
If you can't get out and he won't leave then work on getting everything together you will need to separate.
Documents, wage slips, pension info, asset info, mortgage info, bonuses etc...... Anything you can find.
Have a chat with Womens Aid as well if you can get through.
They can also help you understand what this is.
Would he leave if you asked him to???
And stop listening to him and your mum.
You've chosen a man like this because of your upbringing.
I don't think you should listen to anyone.
Trust yourself.
Get yourself and your DC out of this situation.
As soon as is safely possible!

I’m stuck here for the time being but I can start preparing by getting stuff ready and out the way. Trying to save all the money I can while we’re stuck in too.
I love my mum dearly but she is of the opinion you stay and suck it up for the kids because though my dad is not abusive I think she’s jealous of the opportunities she’s never got because she did the whole housewife thing and she has no confidence.
I worry for my kids though, they adore him and will be devastated by it all.

The whole "housewife thing"

That comment aside, this man sounds awful and I could not live with this OP. The air freshener episode is beyond childish. What a dick. You're have asthma, does he not realise how dangerous coronavirus can be for you? My 17 year old son has not left this house for 3 weeks now because he has asthma and the doctor advised him not to go out unless absolutely necessary. So I know full well you're being very sensible.

Make plans OP, get away from him. The children will he just fine, it's a tale as old as time, it happens every single day. Support them, love them, be there for them, they'll thrive. Don't let your mum guilt trip you into staying....mine does this....ignore it. Follow your heart, it's telling you what to do xx

Sorry, I really didn’t mean that comment to seem disrespectful. I meant it in that she never worked and her life revolves around my dad which I don’t think these days is such a thing.
I just can’t deal with the selfishness. He’s worn me down over the years and he’s made me question myself which I never used to do.

Oh he thinks CV has been blown out of proportion too. He said the 560 people who died isn’t the true figure and when I said my friend and her baby were suspected of having it, he said he was probably just teething 🤦🏼‍♀️