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Really don't know what to do.

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ciare37 · 01/04/2020 12:54

I've been seeing a guy since last September and earlier this year he told me he just wants to be friends, I had no problem with this as I still want him in my life and he's a really good guy, normally I never keep in contact with my ex's.
He has suffered with depression and anxiety in the past and has Asperger's so I know these were some of the reasons he didn't want a relationship as he doesn't know what he wants in life at the moment, so I didn't take it personal.
Now fast forward to now, I last saw him two weeks ago, after not seeing him for six weeks, though we had been talking weekly.
He said that he had left his job and was working on the career path he is looking to get into.
I now haven't spoken to him in a week even though I have tried to call, he hasn't picked and he has seen my WhatsApp message.
I really don't know what to do, I am not getting the feeling he's cheating and am worried he's slipping back into his depressed ways.
Obviously he hasn't blocked me, and I'm still on his Netflix account but I suppose the silence is deafening.

OP posts:
CheddarGorgeous · 01/04/2020 12:59

If you're not together how can he be "cheating"?

hellsbellsmelons · 01/04/2020 13:03

He cannot be cheating as you are not a couple.
I realise you are worried about him but you must let him go now.
He's making it very clear here.
Back off and let him live his life.

ciare37 · 01/04/2020 13:22

Thank you for your replies.

I know we're not together but the way he acts with me, and what he says etc show's me that he does still want to be friends even though we're not dating.

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ravenmum · 01/04/2020 15:14

How does him not answering your calls or messages show you that he wants to be friends?

swingyourpants79 · 02/04/2020 11:02

I've got a mate exactly the same, he does go a little bit quiet every few weeks but I've learnt just to leave him to it! He knows I worry about him but will usually let me know he is ok!
Just message him saying you are worried and just want to check in! Xx

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