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Wife turning daughter against me

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Lonelydad35 · 31/03/2020 21:39

My wife has not been the best of mothers since our daughter was born 8 years ago. She has neglected our daughter for years leaving me with the bulk of childcare etc
I don’t really want to go into more details just trying to explain my situation now

Our relationship is broken and I don’t think it can be fixed, I’ve tried everything

Suddenly she has turned into super mom
Which I have no problems if it was genuine
But she seems to be doing this to get at me

When my daughter sits next to me, she encourages my daughter to sit next to her rather showing her something or offering her something

My wife is now always kissing and cuddling my daughter (again I have no problem with this) but it seems like she does this when I’m doing something with my daughter.

My wife is normally bossy and snappy, now she will not discipline my daughter at all, let’s everything go. Again this is not her normal character

When it’s time for bed, she says it’s up to dad if you can stay up or not

What is worse my daughter tries to please my wife! To get her love, approval,
So my daughter has now also changed
She doesn’t want to play/interact with me.
When my wife is around

When my wife is not here she is a different happy child no springs attached

Any advice how to get through lockdown would be appreciated. I’m feeling really depressed with the situation. How can I stop this?

OP posts:
otterhound · 31/03/2020 22:43

Use the time you have to get your ducks in a row and ltb when you can go and see a solicitor.

Dappledsunlight · 31/03/2020 23:59

Sorry to hear this. She sounds like she's manipulating the situation which is callous. Why is she doing this? Is it her guilty conscience or is she planning to leave and wants to rebuild the relationship with your daughter first?
What do you want to do? It must be very distressing. But sounds like you have a solid relationship with your daughter which, if you split up, you would be able to maintain.

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