Should I leave over his sleeping habbits

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I'm sorry I am multiple posting on here just stuck in my head and driving my crazy :(

Together 7 years and it's just getting worse his sleeping pattern always up late in the night then I wake up around 7 am he comes to bed then I'm on my own in house all day waiting him make up ?
When I finish work he is also sometimes alseep at half 2ish and takes me ages wake him up he has always been this way but longer I'm with him just seems doing my heading :( makes feel upset and alone he is 27 by the way

Yes, you should leave. That's no way to live and you deserve better.

When does he work

Does he go to work?
Does he do shift work?
This is not normal.
I certainly wouldn't put up with it.

Does he not work? If not that’s a reason alone to ditch him.

Yes I would leave. It’s no kind of life is it?

Does he work?

My ex was like this. It was one of the things that killed our relationship. Especially if he makes no effort to improve things.

What is he doing all night?

Does he have a job?

I'd be bored stiff with this and would leave.

Is he a night shift worker? Otherwise what's he doing all night? Living as ships passing in the night is part of life when necessary for shift workers, but otherwise it's not normal. A miserable existence that I've lived - for many years- whilst dh and I worked up the ranks to achieve more normal hours. I wouldn't do it without an end in sight

He comes to bed at 7am? Just as you're getting up?

What is he doing all night??

This isn't ok. Mine and DH sleeping patterns are off kilter, but this is extreme. No wonder you're lonely.

Have a word. Tell him this has to stop. X

Porn addict?

Some jobs tend to lend themselves to this sleeping pattern: professional gambler; session musicisn; early career medic;. I'm guessing he is none of those things....

Aside from that there also sleep disorders and mental health issues that can make people behave like this. Do those apply??

Is he gaming instead of coming to bed?

Sounds like my ex, is he gaming all night? I would leave (I did).

Sorry just got back online, yes he works but we are in the lockdown for 2 weeks and he has for the past 5 days been staying up late on his guitar/ laptop or YouTube not coming to bed with me and really making me upset. He thinks I'm just going on at him when it's so frustrating I'm alone now in the living room he has gone up to bed just not normal is it ?? Saying he can't sleep not in a work pattern it's just stupid supposed to just want to be in bed with your girlfriend when 27 not distracted by technology all night?? 😕😞 Really don't know what to do, my dad said he would come pick me up if ever needed to.
It's hard when I love him it hurts don't want to leave but why should I have put up with him not going to sleep/ waking up like a normal person

So normally not a problem at all and he keeps a schedule aligned with yours but only a problem now for the past 5 days occurring in conjunction with lockdown?

If I have this right then YABVU. This sort of thing throws people for 6 and is hard for them to carry on schedules as usual. Maybe he is affected differently to you by an enforced lockdown? If this sort of thing really makes you think about ringing your dad to cone get you he is probably better off without you.

He is always been lazy when it comes to waking up and sleeping times/schedules.
Normally when I am at work I will finish at 2pm and go home and he will have finished a 2- 10 shift been up all night then he is still asleep gone 3pm... And now this lockdown is just confirming his sleep patterns and he is jsut loving with me as if roomates and dosnt seem to think it's that big of a deal. And that I'm going to throw 7 years away over him sleeping during the day it's not just this it's also his lack of help around the house I'm just fed up I quess but still don't know what to do 😞

I think the lack of helping round the house would concern me more. Does your DP expect you to tiptoe round so that you don’t disturb him when he sleeps?

Sleeping patterns are very individual and it wouldn’t bother me if my DH sleep when I was up, unless I was expected to be quiet all the time.

2am to 10am shift?? And asleep until 3pm? If that's the case then YABVU. That's only five hours sleep assuming he goes straight to sleep at 10am when he gets home. No wonder his sleeping pattern is all over the place if he's now not working.

Apologies if I've misunderstood the 2-10.

2pm-10pm shift I'm assuming?
If so then he does need some down time when he gets home.
But would expect him to be in bed a round 1am maybe a bit later.
Then up around 10-11am to start the day.
But people who do shift work are all different.
For a day at work most of us get up about an hour before we need to leave (or less for some) so not sure what is right or wrong here.
However, it's not working for you.
If you can leave and not put anyone else at risk then do it.
Get some space away from it all and leave him to his own devices!
He will need to cook, clean, wash, iron, wash up, tidy up for himself if you aren't there mothering him!

I’d leave because you are not compatible.