Anyone else's relationship hanging by a thread?

[futuremrsconnor85]

Me and partner have had problems for a while but this lockdown is proving to be hurrendous. Lots of arguing, slamming doors, separate beds, I can't even have conference call for work without the toddler running riot and it's embarrassing. He won't control her as his work comes first apparently. If I get upset he screams in my face that I'm fking pathetic and that people are dying on ventilators. I know that's true and I feel selfish but I'm so depressed. I'm wondering about making plans to leave him when this is over. Tell me I'm not alone?

From the look at various other posts you are deffo not alone. I reckon when it is all over there will be mass divorces or even murders and I am not joking.

Don't know how to advise you but keep away from sharp objects as you may be tempted to use them on him!

You need to get him to pull his weight in looking after your DC.
If it's any consolation, people are aware that those who are WFH and trying to manage without childcare will not find it easy.

Shouting and screaming and saying that people are dying, isn't helping your situation. Hope you are ok.

Can you suggest a split of care for your DC? Most companies will understand that people are trying to juggle work and home life. My company have said that as long as the work gets done they dont mind when it is. I do some of mine when DD is in bed or over the weekend while she's watching a film. Having said that, I wouldn't put up with him screaming in my face and would seriously be considering leaving once this is all over. Many relationships are being put to the test at the moment and sadly there are many that wont make it

If I get upset he screams in my face that I'm fking pathetic

So he's abusive then.

Also your work is equally important, and it certainly will be more so if you ever split and it's your only source of income alongside cm and whatever uc you get.

No wonder you have had problems for a while if he behaves like the above and denigrates your work.

You are with an abusive man OP.

Please reach out for support IRL

Screams in your face? What the fuck OP, don't let him do that.

Split the childcare, jesus, it's a given. Why is his work so much more important than yours ?

Also...your username suggests something I would give a lot of thought to. This man sounds like an arsehole to be honest.

I agree, many people will be splitting up.

I think many people will realise how bad their marriages are during lockdown. People will either divorce or be pregnant at the end of it.
He doesn't sound like he respects you at all op. It does sound like you'd be better of without him.