To stay or not to stay

[L1ttleL0s7]

DH and i have been together since kids.
We have children. we have been married around 4 years now.
We have got over a few hurdles (him unfaithful) we overcome years ago and have been happy (or so i thought)
I just cant seem to get out of my head is this it? i didnt expect a fairy tale ending but surely this isnt it? I dont get butterflys or a rush of desire to get home to see him. sex life is non exsistant (I dont seem to want it)
I'm not depressed in general but feels like i am in this relationship.

Do i stay as its like this with everyone or risk leaving and hope someone will want me despite having kids.

Completely at a loss and dont know what to do.
I know the grass isnt always greener but do you ever really know if you dont go look?

Sounds like you’ve outgrown each other, can you honestly see yourself with him in 5, 10 years? What age are you?

I am almost 30 simular to him too. honestly i am unsure. it feels like we could be still stuck in the same place 5 to 10 years down the line.

You only get one life OP. You need to decide if mediocre is enough for you or if you want more from life. And of course someone else will want you

It may have run its course. It may just need you to reconnect with one another get out of the routine and seeing each other as mum and dad not lovers. Only you know if you want to to try to resurrect things. You are still pretty young.

Perhaps you need to sit down with your DH and talk things through. Say you are feeling a bit low and bored, lost your sexual mojo etc and discuss what you are both prepared to do to try to move things forward. Perhaps he is feeling the same as you.

What did you first like about him, what used to make you laugh and connect. Do you need some drama in your life?

Sounds like his infidelity has killed your feelings for him.

Certainly not your fault OP.

Thank you for all your advice. Will try sit down together and chat about it to see if we can salvage things. Im not 100% sure i want to try but will try talking and see where to go from there.
Thank you all!