Sick with guilt

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Last night I had few glasses of wine, my x messaged me we have been over for 5 years we have a 6 year old together, I have moved on now I have 2 girls with another man. Been together for 4 years,
Anyways last night my x message me. Started of ok but it turn to very flirty and he sent a picture I never asked for one, I told him that it wasn’t ok, ect but I’m so guilty. What I thought was ok when I had a drink abit of harmless fun.
Now I’m sat with the kids and my boyfriend in bed I’m so guilty. What am I going to tell him. I will lose him over this. So stupid

Simple choice OP, fess up and destroy all your lives, or feel bad, never do it again and move on.

This is not a time to ignite a bomb under your family.

Hi op I think we have all been guilty of doing something we shouldn't of done and also something that our partners woundnt think is appropriate. I know I have . I would delete everything and move on . You haven't hurt anyone . Youl feel bad for a few days but itl blow over . If you tell your partner it will hurt him but I can't see him leaving you over it so it will cause unnecessary hurt . Just learn from it and think next time youv had a few and this ever happens again would you really want to be feeling like this and potentially ruining your family for a dick pic ? . Xxx

What do you mean by flirty?

How are things with your partner aside from this?

I can't imagine doing that when in a happy and secure relationship I wanted to be in, so just wondering if there is an underlying reason you've done so? If so that's what needs addressing as a priority.

Is your ex the type to cause trouble over this or hold it over you? Was the chat about doing stuff with / to each other / reminiscing about sexual stuff or more just "you look great in that" type chat?

Well this post shows what a truly lovely person you are, and that your family are lucky to have you.
Learn from the experience, say nothing, and move on

Say nothing, it serves no purpose. Delete the whole exchange and block your ex from everything.

Do you mean you were sexting your ex OP?

You didn't ask for the picture, you didn't send him one.

Delete everything and learn.

Do NOT confess. Jesus, what good will that do?

Is there a reason why you were texting him though OP? Do you usually ?

We don’t normally, I was on the phone to his mum and he texted me, I feel so guilty but I didn’t send anything or tried to be sexual

You didn’t ask for the picture and you told him it wasn’t on. You’ve done nothing wrong OP. Move on. Why do you feel so guilty? You said nothing sexual!

Are you in a controlling relationship!?

Say nothing and move on,don't let it eat at u.learn from the experience 💞💞

I don't get what you mean by very flirty if you didn't say anything remotely sexual? It's hard to tell from your more recent posts if you've even done anything inappropriate?

Learn a lesson and move on.

Lesson learned
Say nowt and don’t do it again.
You don’t want to hurt your hubby for nothing. What will that achieve.
Your guilty conscience is the price you pay for flirty texting that meant nothing at the end of the day.
Forget about it.

I just hope his 'spidy senses' don't tingle

What exactly are you feeling guilty about? You have stated that you didn't enjoy the picture he sent but did you encourage the conversation?

Why are you feeling guilty about him sending you a picture?

If you were flirting back in the messages and it's only when he sent you the pic you pulled back, then you did a shitty thing.

If it was one-sided on his part, and he sent you a dick pic with no encouragement, then he did a shitty thing.

If it's the latter, just put him on block on social media and tell your partner that ex sent you a dick pic so you've blocked him. (You can communicate by phone or email about dc you have together).

If it's the former, you really need to have a word with yourself.

Say nothing, move on.

Sounds like in some way you encouraged the flirty behaviour OP the way you dismissed it as harmless fun?

If so I would be mortified too.

You really shouldn't be having this 'harmless fun' with your ex.

You didn't do anything wrong. You regret the calls and put a stop to it goi g further. Delete everything, forget about it, and for heavens sake don't 'confess' anything. IT SERVES NO PURPOSE. I just wish more people would stop 'confessing' to make themselves feel better, it's selfish and hurts the innocent party.

I do get the guilt, even if you haven't really done anything wrong, as my ex crossed the line several times when I was first with my DP and I felt horrible, even though I wasn't the one in the wrong. He was also in a serious relationship. Still is and she actually found the messages he sent me. Don't know how she forgave that actually.

He never sent a picture and I certainly never said anything flirty though....

What do you mean by this OP?