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‘On a break’ during the lockdown

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Munskin · 29/03/2020 21:21

Hi there, my DH & I are on a break- really i dont know what it is as we have been arguing alot however one thing i know is we needed this time apart( he works from home im on a sabbatical) .

I have been thinking about returning to work to ease the pressure at home of us being together 24/7 but as i work for NHS im going back earlier now to help & i have found i feel a sense of helplessness right now & work keeps me focused.

Im just lost and don’t know what to do?
Any suggestions?
Should i follow the guidance re breaks and make sure we both know the ground rules & if we are on same page- timeframes etc ? Its not like normal times- i just know that we have not been apart for this long in years & im so lonely & missing him. Im not a mind reader so trying not to guess what he is thinking as i do this TOO MUCH but I did ask him to come home but he said his head is messed up and he needs time ( i had a freak out when they announced the lockdown) . I miss the affection, intimacy and im finding it really hard being on my own from that point of view. Its funny cause one of his issues with me is I'm not affectionate enough- now i need him more than ever and he isn't here 🤦‍♀️
I cant figure out if he is ghosting me or if he truly needs time for himself & thats what he is doing or are we delaying the inevitable.

Anyway everyone stay safe x

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Fairycake2 · 30/03/2020 16:20

Sorry you are finding this so tough OP. It's a difficult time for many people. Sounds like you could both do with some time apart though to have some time to think about what you want. Difficult at the moment but try and keep busy. Focus on your job. Working for the NHS you'll be doing something amazing right now. Do what you can to connect with friends and get some real life support. Being alone at the moment is really hard and your bound to be having a wobble but remember why you needed the time apart and use it to think about what you really want long term

Munskin · 01/04/2020 12:09

Thanks Fairycake. I just find it so strange not seeing him and frankly not knowing what is going on. I feel in dark .

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