Relocating away from ex.. cant take it any.more

[Whathewhatnow]

I've been living with ex and our two kids for a year since separating.

Had the lockdown come a week later we would have exchanged on the sale of our current property and pur onward purchass.Too late now. Sale and onward purchases at risk...

I cannot, cannot face the next 12 weeks locked down with him.

There is a vacant family property (holiday let) I could go to, taking the kids. He could have them half the week. We could meet half way for changeover- its 3 hours away in the car. Theres nowhere more local I could go to. Cant afford local Airbnb, nor a let as well as paying the mortgage here.

It was ok whilst I had an escape plan and the prospect of my own place. That has now gone for the foreseeable.

What's the verdict? I feel utterly, utterly trapped.

Agree with others. Choose whichever is the bigger house and set a rota so you both know when you can use the living room etc without running into each other.

Is he looking at any interim options? Or is it you solely shouldering the emotional fixing load on this one?

Could you have longer less frequent stays at the two houses? It's not like they are missing school/friends/clubs after all.

Jeez, just go. Sounds a good plan.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts. It looks to be a non-starter anyway at least for the short term because another family member in a bind is in there for 3 weeks. Luckily a lovely, lovely kind friend is sending me the keys to her flat so I can escape there if things get really bad. I can go once a week on my way to/ from doing the food shop (no chance of deliveries here, Not until 14 april....). And if anyone moand about that not bei g in the spirit of the bloody restrictions they can eff off :)

That’s a great outcome and you must feel v relieved.

Just be careful that he doesn’t do something stupid around you leaving the family home. I have no idea what the implications could be but we always see on here not to leave the family home.

Also have a think about the buying / selling process. That might collapse or you all might have to drop price by a bit to make it all happen? Or chain is shorter? Talk to agents / lawyers to get contingencies all lined and all paperwork in place up so that you are all ready to move once the restrictions have lifted. Seems that most are looking at simultaneous exchange and completion date.

@Gutterton he isn't that much of a knob and legally he isn't able to sell without my signature ;) but it's good advice nevertheless.

The chain, miraculously, seems intact so far. All vendors and buyers in agreement to wait till lockdown over and finance all looks secure unbelievably. We are getting everything g ready to exchange ASA the restrictions come off..