Help with relationship

[PaPa06122018]

Hello so I'm not someone who usually posts on forums but I'm extremely confused. My girlfriend left home a week ago, the next day she come back saying she wanted to give it another try. The main reason we split was all down to how her nan wanted to get heavily involved in our relationship. Well after the day she come back saying she wanted to give it another try she then went home and blocked me. I then decided to not contact her and then the next day she contacted me again which then she then blocked and I then become worried about her welfare. The next day my mum contacted her to check she was okay as she was close with her and she said she didn't want to get back together which was left at that however later that night she called me a few times so I answered and she said she wanted to forget about all this and come back. She kept to that and 2 days later she planned to tell her nan she was coming back which she done and she seemed so excited to be coming back however her nan then told her she's not allowed to be with me. She's an adult just if your wondering, her nan called me and told me I'll never see her again and I heard her crying in the background so I knew it wasn't her decision. Her nan seems to have tried to fill her head that I'm not good enough for her due to her being from a higher class background than me.

Well when she done that she forced her to block me on everything yet again. So now the longest gap to last night over 30 hours later she contacts me and tells me police had been round as I called them as I was worried about her welfare and knew it wasn't her decision. She said she wanted to make things work and seemed so happy to have contacted me. However we didn't talk for too long as she said she was tired. I told her I loved her. This morning I wake up blocked again. I really don't know what to do now tbh , I mean part of me thinks she's so confused due to things being put into her head from her nan but I've only ever had her best interests at heart, we did argue a bit of late due to pressures of her nan and also her grandad having cancer but all I wanted to do was show her as much support as possible and make sure she knew she wasn't alone as a team it's always easier but yeah very very confused and need advice on what to do. I feel extremely worried about her mental health as she is very low atm which is what makes it a lot worse.

Also can I add her nan has been doing this for nearly a year. She nearly broke us up in November and constantly targeted me so I imagine she's still doing a lot now into the girls head. I just don't know what the best thing is to do ?

It’s time to let her go. Find someone who truly loves you. This girl doesn’t.

When I met my husband, my mother was against us being together. So was his. I ignored my mother. Thirty nine years later, she still doesn’t like him, though she admits he’s a good person l. He told his mother he’d never seen a child jump into a grave with their parent (meaning people need to make their own decisions in life.). His mother eventually came around.

If this girl isn’t strong enough to make her own decision, your life with her will be hell.

I want to echo Winterlife. My parents were against my relationship. I married my husband and 30 years later when he died my mother was devastated as they had grown to love him.
Your girlfriend does not love you. Find someone else.

I know I do fear that but the case with her is very difficult. My family absolutely adore her. She just seems in a very low place which makes it worse to just let her fully go. I just wonder when she will contact me again and what she will say but then I just imagine she will block me again. Last time I did even say I hope this is the last time you block me as I don't want to see her gone forever. I feel she is doing more damage to herself by feeling she had to chose family or me which is not the case and has never been the case.

The only thing is I can read her eyes so well and she tells me she loves me so so much. She's always looked with so much love into my eyes. I've been in a relationship with someone who didn't love me before and could tell it whereas I've never doubted this girl loves me however she doesn't seem to have told me in the last week since the split that she loves me until after I have said it to her.

But she is still under the influence of her family. The problem is, this will be your life with her. You will always come after her family.

How old are you? How old is she?

You know something? That look you see in her eyes? It can be faked. Have you never watched a film? Go and look at yourself in the mirror. I bet you can look at yourself with the same intensity and love.

It's not real.

She doesn't love you, value you or respect you enough to stand up to her family.

I wouldnt block someone I loved because I'm a grown up. Find a grow up who isn't going to play games and leave you feeling confused and like shit.