I really can’t stand my neighbours!

[Anon211115]

I’m having a panic attack right now thinking how will I cope with next 12 weeks or so being stuck here listening to them. They’re okay in winter months but come summer they just annoy the hell out of me. I don’t feel I can “have a word” with them as they have a right to be in their garden, it’s their house after all! But I don’t know why they grate so much on me. It literally makes my stomach churn every time I see or hear them. They are so bloody loud.

How do the rest of you feel about your neighbours? I probably am being over dramatic but I’m very sensitive to noises. Neighbours on the other side I wouldn’t even know they are sitting in their garden as they’re very considerate I have no issues with them.

Any tips on just learning to live with it? Or any funny stories relating to this so I can cheer up and finally sleep. It’s a mixture of anxiety, not knowing what is happening cos if coronavirus and my dislike for them that’s driving my sleeplessness!

Well mine are currently drunkenly singing karaoke?! It's nearly half 3.. luckily OH is on nights and will be giving them a nice early wake up call

Inferiorbeing. Poor you! At least mine turn it down at a reasonable hour. You can’t live like this. Is it most nights or just one off?

Oh no OP I had this with previous neighbours. They were all in the garden from first thing in the morning til 10pm shouting at each other or on speaker phone. There were so many of them and it echoed through my house. It also used to get me so down as I felt like there was nowhere to escape to. Eventually they moved out but I just wanted to sympathise as I know exactly what this is like. One thing I did do was wear noise cancelling headphones around the house, or always have some background noise on to distract me. It's annoying that I had to do that though!

I can't hear my neighbours. I think the walls are soundproof.

@twigletpiglet17 thanks for the suggestion. It does get me down to be honest. I think I’m more sensitive to sounds etc as my husband doesn’t get what my problem is! Being an introvert home is my refuge and now that I definitely can’t leave it’s making me really depressed. They’ll start their noises in a couple of hours until it gets dark. I don’t feel I can sit outside or use my garden cos of them. Only way I can explain the noise is like howling banshees (sp?!)

This sounds exactly the same as me @Anon211115! My DP also was able to completely block it out, and didn't understand why I was obsessing over it. I also used to avoid the garden as I couldn't stand being closer to them. I would avoid coming home from work because I knew it would be noisy, which was awful. I can't imagine what it must be like for you at the moment. Is it adults or kids or both that are noisy? Do you know them at all to talk to? We tried to speak to ours about it a few times but it didn't make much difference, and as you say, they're entitled to use their garden. I just never understood why they had to be so inconsiderate about it. I really feel for you and totally get where you're coming from, it sounds so similar to my situation. I used to wish it would rain so they'd at least go inside for a bit.

P.s. I had a sleepless night hence the strange posting times!

My neighbours fight CONSTANTLY, they had their friends around yesterday. They had music blaring from 9am onwards (rave music)

The only way the woman communicates with her child is by roaring shouting.

Also they had a dog, a french bulldog that's suddenly nowhere to be seen which they used to lock out in the rain until I knocked to say I could mind it if they struggled.

They also had the cheek to knock for my WiFi password because their "baby broke the virgin wire"

I had this, and I moved. It was making me so anxious and miserable. I had to go round a few times over the years to tell them to keep it down, which they always did, but they were so inconsiderate. We got on well otherwise but I stopped using my garden because they always had music playing loudly and I could never get any peace.

To be honest it was a one off but I'm grumpy now! Will be finding super inconvenient things to do all day.. they were meant to move next week so the house could be sold but its put back and I'm devastated

@maa1992 you really should call the police if they have friends round again.....!!!!!

you really should call the police if they have friends round again.....!!!!!

😂

Yeah because police don't have any more important to do.

OP I understand!

I don't like my neighbours on one side to be honest. Chavvy and druggy. But they are pretty quiet and as its social housing, its hard to move/exchange.

Having decent, quiet neighbours is an absolute must for a sensitive soul. Don't ever feel you have to apologise for that OP. Some people are just more sensitive than others and so notice noisy or reckless behaviour more.

I'm not talking about the odd party or some normal social noise - but everyday music, shouting and so forth. Which I also do think is completely anti-social.

What can you do? You can either wait for them to move - if there's any chance. Or, ultimately, bite the bullet and put your home up for sale. OR rent it out and rent somewhere else.

Peace and quiet is more important to me in a home, more than anything else. I can put up with bad decor, ugly exterior, almost anything. But noisy neighbours, no.

As I said I am in social housing so a bit stuck. But if I owned my own home I would never hestitate to move to find some peace and quiet.

Good luck OP and I hope things improve.

I feel for you OP. I have had the most horrendous neighbours in the past. I once lived next door to a couple of were teachers and they used to go away several times a year, leaving their teenage son home. He would literally have parties non-stop for days. It made me ill. Thankfully we rented so we were able to move eventually. I then bought a house where next door's kids used to thump and bang about my house would shake and their TV was always blasting.
My current house is much better but I have to now put up with roaring dirt bikes on a weekend zooming through the nature park next door. It seems peace is rather hard to find.

OP I wonder if you live on the other side of my neighbours! Could be the same people. I've ordered some noise cancelling earplugs so that I can sit out in the garden if it gets warm. I've mentioned noise to them a couple of times in the past but it's changed nothing, they're just noisy inconsiderate entitled types. There's no easy answer but I do sympathise.

Oh I sympathise. My neighbours are all cunts. Unfortunately house prices are cheaper in this part of town. I'm surrounded by right wing racist screamers who absolutely despise me.
There's a real mob mentality, occasionally they'll offer an olive branch and l wl join them for the sake of long term relations but they are really vile and really clearly don'tike me, it's like mean girls, the husbands will be much friendlier but still make barbed comments about my political leanings, failed relationships etc, I cannot go anywhere and they won't be going anywhere in a hurry. It's quite soul destroying, especially in the summer when they all congregate pretty much outside my house until the wee small hours. My kids always want to play with their kids but every time it ends with mine being hit or knocked over or something else. The parents are so unlike anybody I'd choose too spend time with but the way our street is set out (kind of cul de sac) means that we are right in the middle of it. Other friends have sold up and moved away specifically because of them but because of my change in income when ex left,on paper I can't afford to buy any where else.

Headphones.