I have fallen for his friend...

[Notthebest]

I split from the father of my children about 3 months ago. In that time I have spent alot of time with one of his best friends. I am so happy and can feel myself falling in love with this guy. I have two children with x and would really like to stay friends with him, not just for their benifit but because he is a good guy. I dont want to hurt him and I know his friend doesnt. I had a conversation with x about this last night and he said that if anything ever happened between {friend} and I he would never forgive either of us.

This guy makes me so happy. Is it worth passing up something that makes me feel good after feeling crap for so long? Is it worth ruining my relationship with the father of my kids?

Notthebest my first reaction is you split up from the father of your childrn 3 months ago, that is no time at all and I would think getting involved with anyone at this stage, let alone a situation which is so complicated, is rushing it a tad...

Not worth ruining the relationship for a fling that may not have any potential. You have only been single for 3 months, that is not enough time to know what you really want.

children sorry

What fbb said. Any relationship at this point is likely to be a rebound fling type thing. Give it a year. If you still really care for his friend then, maybe your x could be reasonable about it?

You split with the x for a reason but it sounds as if he is not too happy about it - he still has feelings for you if he would not be able to forgive you both.

But it is early days and no need to do anything silly too soon.

Why is x's best friend spending so much time with you? Is he hoping for rebound sex?

When my dad died, people were saying to my mum's single male neighbour that 'he ought to get in there, it'd be easy'.

Maybe you should give yourself more time to see what you want from the future. Sometimes that includes spending time not being in a relationship.