Keeping in contact with mum who lives on her own

[Basilandparsleyandmint]

What are other people’s thoughts on my actions today?
My elderly mum lives on her own and is struggling with the concept of lockdown. She is in her late 70’s and thinks it’s all nonsense- she won’t be told but to be fair she is isolated in that myself and my brother are the only people she has contact with so apart from shops and walking her dog she doesn’t really go anywhere but she is used to seeing us.
So today, i took my early teenage children out for a bike ride and stopped outside her house for a chat. She wanted us to come e in but we said no so we chatted outside for 30 mins and I told her to keep her distance.
She finds his so hard and I have to be the one to make the choices for her.
Is this okay to do?

You're making choices for yourself. You don't want to go near her, and are not going near her. If she insists that you do go near her, that would be her making choices for you.

I live on my own and my adult children are doing my shopping then standing at a safe distance while we chat. We also talk on the phone or facetime each other.

I’m doing that with my mum, who is a similar age. I stay well back and it cheers her up. I’ve also been telling her how proud I am that she’s isolating herself.

I’m struggling more with my elderly dad who can’t hear a word you say unless you’re next to him! He hates his hearing aid and has never worn it, so I need him to try again with it.

Okay I do feel a bit better that it’s not just me - am not trying to flout the rules but feel my mum needs a bit of support. She was trying to come closer to us and I had to tell her not to but I keep telling her it’s not forever