I want a divorce from my rat bag dh

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I finally uttered those words after so much emotional suffering . I feel so empty but strangely lifted .
Hoe do I tell my teenager ds that his world is going to be turned upside down ?

I personally would figure out things like separation and living situations before telling your son. Give him as many concrete facts and as few unknowns as possible:

Dad and i are getting a divorce. He will live XXX and you can see him YYY, we both love you very much and you're our top priority.

Probably not a great time in the middle of a lockdown op.
Your teenagers life is already turned upside down. With CV.

I know the timing sucks for cv as we are all cooped up in a house. Tbh my ds hasn’t left his room really as he is a typical teenager and I don’t think he realises what the world outside his messy room is going through . We have now put the house up for sale , I can live with my rat bag as although he has been an absolute twunt in this aspect he is for most of the time bearable . We are not fighting - just in limbo till we go through the process.
I am so drained but trying to be super mom, and a front line super worker .
Do you think I need to get counselling for ds ?

If he is a teenager he will be asked where he wants to go, not get told. And can change his mind when he wants. My DD originally wanted 50/50 but has now changed to fully with dad and just alternate weekends with me. DS stayed with dad from the start. Not my choice but have to accept it...

@Otter71 Wow I had no idea they get asked .
That really changes things like looking for a suitable house. I would be broken if I can’t be with my ds . He is my world , and he calls me his best friend .

Yeah I have to say it hurts. I had just about coped with DS. He is 18 at uni so more independent. My DD is my world. I have done so much to make sure she gets what she wants regardless of cost to me. She just decided last week despite picking my house and the 2 cats I got cos she is animal crazy she can only cope with the former family home. Lonely and struggling to see positives doesn't come close but also not my choice...

Thank you for sharing - I will have to cross that bridge when it comes to it .