Unhappy relationship!! Help

[Ruacai89]

Hi all. I've been with my partner 6 years with 2 kids. From the start i have dealt with his trust issues and accusations. Feeling like i cant be on my phone, he questions everything i do. He has Bad moods with me and kids all the time just bringing us all down. I am soo unhappy I've recently started anti depressants. I have no desire to have sex with him but do it to save arguments. I really want things to be over but I know if I do he will not watch kids while I work and I really love my job. This is the only reason I'm still with him. I feel like I'm stuck and can't get away to be a better happier person for me and my kids. Does anyone have any advice on how to get out of it?

You should not be sacrificing yours as well as your children’s long term health and well-being here for a mere job. That is absolutely no reason at all to be staying with such a hateful man. You do not need him to look after your children and chances are he does a crap job at looking after them anyway.

You are on anti depressants because of him and he is the root cause of your unhappiness. If you were able to leave him you may well find that your own depressed state would lift markedly. There are other choices that can be made here and it could help you a lot if you were to contact Women’s aid. This relationship is over in all but name in any case also given his groundless accusations.