SUPPORT THREAD - for those stuck in the house with a relationship breakdown

[Comps83]

See my other thread re - Shit first Mother's Day
I'm guessing there are other people going through a relationship breakdown but neither of you are able to leave due to the current situation

DH is refusing to leave or be civil . He could go to his mothers as she is only 50 and has no health problems but he won't
Keeps telling me to 'fuck off if I want to end it' but obvs I won't leave either . Shit times ahead

Thanks . I feel so wiped out . Today has been awful

I think a lot of people are going to need a support thread, especially when we are locked down!

Same here. Hubby and I separated at the weekend. Still in the same house. Now on lockdown for weeks on end

I might go and live in the garage!

We have a shed in the garden that would make a good hide out! Just need a comfy chair.

I'm so sorry for you all I was moaning about living here on my own for weeks on end but having had two marriage break ups in the past I can see how awful it must be stuck in the house in this situation.

Things have escalated
Spent all day shouting at each other
Not sure how we can carry on living like this

Same here. I have been seeing therapist since January and was making progress when this happened. Stupid quarantine. I told my husband I was working through things (he did not want to do couples therapy) and will talk to him when i am ready, but with this crises on for, god knows how long, what to do. He insisted we talked about this today and we did. It was hard. I though I would get heart attack. Right now we are at, "so what now?" phase. We cannot even separate. How are we going to live through this quarantine knowing that we are at the breaking point. Also three kids (mostly adults) living with us. :(

One thing that has become really noticeable to me during this time is just how little attention he pays to our 5 year old. Especially when she first finished school and I was still having to go out to work. If I don't make her lunch, she doesn't have lunch, she gets a bag of crisps. He never forgets to feed himself properly though. If I don't answer her questions, she gets told to be quiet or ignored. I know kids can be annoying and try your patience, but she can say "daddy" in the sweetest voice and get told "go away dd" in return. He loves her and he does spend time with her sometimes and seems to enjoy it, but it's always on his terms, just how it's always been with me. The rest of the time he will stick her in front of a screen and leave her watching YouTube. A few nights ago we did argue about something, I can't remember what, and he refused to say goodnight to our DD because he was sulking at me. It's made it more clear to me that I do want/need to leave him.

Sorry, that was a bit of a rant. it's been on my mind. I'm not in the same place as the rest of you, in theory we are "working" on our relationship. In reality we barely communicate - well, a bit more now that we are in the house together 24-7, but still not what I'd want in a relationship.

He keeps telling me 'fuck off then! Go on fuck off and leave'
He knows thats not bloody possible right now
He had the chance to go live with his sister a few weeks ago but I chickened out at the thought of lockdown completely alone with a small baby I, regret that now

How are you @Comps83?