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Husband leaving to do everything during isolation. Got aggressive with me.

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Moonandstars1 · 22/03/2020 11:47

We are currently in isolation due to DS2 having shown the symptoms. We are currently on week 1 and husband has been sleeping in till 11/12 whilst I've been getting up with the dc aged 6 and 3. I've done the cooking, cleaning, washing, drying helping dd with school work,whilst dh has either been in bed or on the xbox. One of the days he helped clear the garage but that's been it. I've finally snapped at him apparently hes enjoying sleeping in because normally hes up for half 4 and it's my job to handle the kids because he works full time ( I work 18 hours a week) so I told him it would have be nice to let each other have a sleep in and it was mothers day today he kicked off with me got aggressive pushing and groving me. Hes gone for a drive but I'm trapped in the house with him another week. I feel like one of these days hes going to hit me. We been together almost years married for almost 6 and currently rent. This isnt the first time he has got aggressive with me. I just feel my life is a mess at the moment. My parents are vulnerable df having terminal cancer and my dm has heart problems.

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 22/03/2020 12:05

What are you getting out of this relationship now?

I would urge you to today contact Women’s aid online and use their chat facility.

Longer term I would seriously put firm plans in place to leave him, the relationship is over in all but name anyway due to the abuse and other ill treatment he meets out towards you and in turn your children. This is no life either for them to grow up in.

StrawberryJam200 · 22/03/2020 12:12

Yes OP, contact Women’s Aid or your local DV charity. They will help you think through what you want to do, even at this time. There are things you can do to limit the risks even whilst in isolation with him. You could also contact the Police. You could tell your employer and your DS’s school, they all have a duty to protect you.

I’m so sorry. If this (Cv19) had happened 9 years ago I would have been in a similar situation to yours. Keep posting.

12345kbm · 22/03/2020 13:52

What kind of advice are you looking for OP?

lmcneil003 · 22/03/2020 14:01

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pointythings · 22/03/2020 14:56

lmcneil003 this is the second thread where I've found you being an abuse apologist. Stop it.

annamie · 22/03/2020 15:25

@Imcneil003

I second what @pointythings said. Also, fuck off.

OP, trust me, he will only get worse. You are worth so much more than this.

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