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Another stressful Mother's Day!!

10 replies

Spinningwheels · 22/03/2020 11:02

Fed up of 'special' days supposedly for me with 2 kids and an adult kid.
He plans ridiculous over-the-top meals with absolutely no planning whatsoever and I'm stuck with screaming hungry kids whilst it takes him 1.5 hours to make pancakes.
We finally get breakfast at 10am. He then announces he's put a joint of meat in the oven and we're having a full roast dinner at 12oclock?!!!
The kids are crying, we are planning a morning walk, it's too late now as little one needs to nap and won't nap in his pushchair. I wrestle them into their clothes regardless. He needs me to watch the kids so he can peel veg he says.
My heart sinks.
All I want is a bath. One bath.
He tells me I can lie-in this morning but accidentally left me with the baby monitor who wakes me just as I'm dropping back off to sleep. He's in the eldests bedroom asleep in HER bed as she plays on the floor. He hasn't a clue that he left the baby monitor with me.

I burst out crying as I'm wrestling the kids into clothes after all this and proclaim "ENOUGH! I don't want any MORE FOOD!'" and burst into tears. Told him I don't want a roast.
I WANT A REST AND FRESH AIR!
I am losing the will here...

He tells me I'm a "selfish git."

I'm now in the bath crying.

Seriously can't take my foot off the pedal for even a day. He can't organise himself one jot or think about what's important.

I know we're all feeling overwhelmed right now, I was banking on Mothers Day to actually get a bit of time to think and reflect on everything after worrying about childcare since the announcements and DH burying his head in the sand as usual.

Fed up.

My eldest is now upset that I'm upset on Mother's Day. I feel guilty, but I just want to be left alone. In the bath.

Father's Day- he takes himself off to watch sport with his Dad for the day. If he does that, surely he understands what I truly need today?
Feel really disappointed.

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mummmy2017 · 22/03/2020 11:17

Selfish sod.
How come we cook and no one has to pay us on the back

mummmy2017 · 22/03/2020 11:17

Pat not pay

Spinningwheels · 22/03/2020 19:36

Eldest DC and I went for a walk-I felt a lot better. Then I found a bottle of champagne and drank 3 glasses sat in the garden playing with DC!

I'm pissed off because although I got cards from the kids that they had made at school/nursery, he didn't bother getting me one from them himself or making one with them. I think it's shoddy.

He used to be very thoughtful. When first DC was born he would make little thoughtful personal gifts and I always got a lovely card. Life as a mum is so much harder now we have more DCs and now he doesn't acknowledge what I do as a mum at all.
I'm pretty devastated tbh.
The roast was lovely, which he made later on, but it was lucky that the sun was shining and the kids were happy to play outside without too much bickering.

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Windyatthebeach · 22/03/2020 19:45

Maybe your lovely garden needs a patio op..
Always scope for an alibi in here!!
Grin

EKGEMS · 22/03/2020 20:09

Sprinkle his dessert with arsenic

Windyatthebeach · 22/03/2020 21:15

As you mention poisoning - read up on the teacup poisoner. Bloody fascinating!!
Blush
Pass some time away anyway!
Not for an idea honestly!

Dowser · 22/03/2020 21:35

Glad things ended on a brighter note

probablysue · 22/03/2020 22:53

What a prick. He’s doing what he wants for you rather than what you need. You need a proper chat about this when you’re not feeling so upset. Tell him next year you are booking into a spa for the day. He’s paying and watching the kids. As soon as this lockdown is over, book it. In the diary. Done.

mummyof2darlings · 23/03/2020 00:01

At least he tried you sound a bit ungrateful tbh you could of just said thank you for the effort however how about we go for a walk and have a early dinner instead you could of all gone out then be could of make the food when you got back

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