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Working away

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hellodinasour · 21/03/2020 23:52

Just wondering if anyone else would be pissed off if their other half is always living the life of luxury when they work away ? I swear that he preferes it than being home . He just phoned me and I could tell he's pissed again . Winds me right up that he's for work not be having a social life every single night ! And he's still up drinking with the boys and he's got work in 5 hours ! If I dine this god help it would be ww3

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TigerDater · 22/03/2020 08:50

He sounds very immature OP. Is he in some remote part of the world that doesn’t have CV?

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hellodinasour · 22/03/2020 08:58

Thanks for replying . He's in the uk . They were all in the apartment getting drunk till the early hours . No text after I spoke to him and he said he would text me before he went to bed . Last seen on what's app was 2 am so that's the time he was awake until . This is the reason I hate him working away it's like one big holiday to him . I had a text this morning when he woke up . Literally feel like killling him but then again if I went out when he was away he would play holy hell . Why can't he just work away have one pint with his friends and get on with the night ready for work the next day . Last year he was always out until gone 12 then when I was getting annoyed cause he would phone me drunk at that time he would go all funny on me and put the phone down saying I was in a mood and he wasn't drunk ! Ten years we have been together but I'm coming to the end now

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HisBetterHalf · 22/03/2020 09:11

He could bring coronavirus back with him. What job does he do?

TigerDater · 22/03/2020 09:28

Do you have DC with him?

If he believes this is acceptable behaviour for a grown adult then he must also accept that the same applies to you OP. CV aside, I suggest you concentrate less on him and more on developing your own life to your own satisfaction. Oh and switch your phone off after 10pm so he can’t wind you up by calling when drunk.

Olawisk · 22/03/2020 10:12

Why can’t you go out ?

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hellodinasour · 22/03/2020 16:34

He's in construction. Again he's lied said that he was only going up there cause there was no work back home for him then last night said he was up there to do them a favour and his work at home is ok ! Iv still not heard from him at all . But he's been on social media and everything 😂. What a twat . I'm in hell of a mood and I never am . Iv never lost it on him in all the years we have Been together but I so easily could now . Do you think we are going to go in to lock down soon? Im still in work too and meet new customers every single day . I am scared of catching this virus . I have one daughter but from a previous relationship. So glad I haven't had any with him to be honest . His true colours come out when he's drinking. I am always second best . When he's away he doesn't like me going out because he's convinced I am going to cheat . Don't know why he's like it tho because I have never cheated on him and never have come close and also I am his 1st relationship so it's not as if he has been hurt in the past . Why are men so immature ? X

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TigerDater · 22/03/2020 16:50

Not all men are that immature OP. He doesn’t sound like he’s worth it, people who have one set of standards for themselves and one for other people rarely are. He’s controlling you, and you’re getting nothing out of it. Tell him not to bother coming back?

MikeUniformMike · 22/03/2020 18:46

He's living a single man's life while he's away. How old are you both, and how long have you been together?

The he doesn't like me going out because he's convinced I am going to cheat he doesn't like me going out because he's convinced I am going to cheat is a red flag.

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hellodinasour · 23/03/2020 15:37

Hi mike 😊 we are both in our 30s . I told him that when he eventually spoke to me last night and he went mental saying that I'm controlling him he's an adult and can do what he wants . My reply was I don't care what he gets up too but don't appreciate being ignored for nearly two days .

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SueEllenMishke · 23/03/2020 15:39

You aren't allowed out because he thinks you'll cheat?
Nah ....get rid op

pog100 · 23/03/2020 15:44

You need to dump him purely for the jealousy and double standards. That is not the basis of a good relationship.

MikeUniformMike · 23/03/2020 15:57

The not letting you out because he thinks you will cheat is a red flag because I think he is projecting onto you.

Your relationship is the blueprint your DD will have. for what a normal relationship is like.

It looks to me like you have a manchild there.Get rid.

copycopypaste · 23/03/2020 16:02

If he was happy with you doing the same thing I'd say that you probably had different ideas on what then relationship should be. But if he's stopping you going out, I say dump him. Either way it's obviously not working. If you've no kids together then just leave, you've both got different expectations in this relationship

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