Don't know what to do.

[OrangeBlossom3]

About 3 weeks ago I split up with my boyfriend as we were stuck in a rut and things weren't going too well. He went back to his full time and didn't speak for a week.

We then decided that we could see how things go. Be conscious not to let things get like that. He said he wanted to see each other once a week and for things to happen as and when naturally. All good.

Not even a week ago he says that he misses the company and wants more. He's questioning how I feel because of how I am with him over text. We speak a few times on phone a day. Only seen each other a few times since we agreed to all this. One of which was overnight Monday and we had a good time, we both said so.

I feel like he's contradicting himself now, complaining I'm not doing enough to show how much I care? I thought we were relaxing and seeing how things go. Feels like he's not changing. Or he's putting me in a no win situation.

Any advise please?

Put your foot down. Say you want to see him once a week, if he doesn't respect that he can bugger off.

It's not so much that which is the problem. He was doing it to work on himself and stop being so needy. Things are meant to be laid back and he's overthinking it

Is it really worth it? I'd just accept that you two have different needs in the relationship and if it doesn't work, move on to someone you'd work well with.

@OrangeBlossom3,

Resently explained to someone on this site....NEVER go back to an EX...unless it's your ex-husband...why? You had promised to spend the rest of your life with your husband...so there is a mutual benefit for both of you.

A boyfriend is like shopping for food. You know what you want in a man, or how you want to be treated. Guy comes along and says "what do you want?" You let him know you want oranges, and he says no problem. But as time goes on, he keeps giving you lemons. No matter what say...always lemons.

As most women would do....You try to do the impossible. You try to change a man. You try to change a lemon into an orange. How is that going for you??

You can no more change an orange into a lemon, than change a bad boyfriend into the man of your dreams....It will never happen...You can teach a man how to be a better person, but you will never change him. If you want a man to give you what you want, then find such a man. Do not try to take whatever man comes your way, and try to change him into what you need.

Going back to an ex is like putting your hand on a hot stove, and doing it again and again, but expecting a different result. You will never find the right person for you, if you keep the wrong person in your life.

I think the first thing you should do it to answer the question - is it worth it? after you answer, if should get more clear

I don't know why people think that an ex will be different each time. I know people who have taken an ex back 10 times, and still they are the same. (in fact worse, because they know they can get away with treating people dreadfully).

3 weeks is hardly any time at all - spend longer apart and break the habit of being with him. Try 21 days no contact - it takes 21 days to break a habit.