Partner is just vile

[IAmWorthy]

Been together 8 years. In the last year he has just turned really nasty and vile.
No DV.
I suspect there is something going on between him and a colleague at work. He'd never admit it as he's too much of a coward. I won't go through his phone because in all honesty I'm past the point of caring and actually feel sorry for her.
He's an entitled little twat (so are his siblings).
He tries to get in my head a lot which thankfully doesn't work. He hasn't always been like this. Literally over the last year.
I asked him to leave and he won't.
Don't see why I should as this is DS's home (it's a rented property).
How can I take him off the bloody tenancy?!

I don't think you CAN make him leave if he's on the tenancy.

Personally, i'd leave. life's too short.

Just tell him to fuck off. And mean it.

Trust me I have.
I don't want to leave. I like the property and many don't come up in the area and when they do they're out of my price range .
It's just shit.

Talk to your landlord

Can you afford the rent on your own?

Are you in stable employment?

Do you have a decent credit score?

who do you rent off? speak to your landlord and find out how to get his name off the tenancy

Yes decent credit score.
I can afford the rent by myself and yes stable employment.
I would have to go through the letting agent first but it's worth a shot.
Thank you

You can't remove him from the tenancy without his permission, legally or morally.

If your partner wont move out and take his name off the tenancy you can apply to the court to do it but this can take time and you need to write a statement as well.

If he is really bad and it is domestic abuse (this includes emotional, verbal, financial as well) you can apply for an occupation order. Get in contact with your local Womens Aid for help.

Alternatively speak to your letting agent/landlord, see if they will give you 2 months notice to end the tenancy and then gir them to grant you you're own tenancy once the notice expires and he moves out.
This is potentially risky though because if he doesnt leave they have to apply to court.

You can't remove him from the tenancy but you can unilaterally end the tenancy, and if the landlord is in agreement, they can simply write you a new sole tenancy to start on the day your joint one ends.

This is potentially risky though because if he doesnt leave they have to apply to court.

It isn't really - if the OP gets a sole tenancy and he refuses to leave it's her problem not the landlord's problem. She's the one who will need to get him out.

Just chuck all of his stuff out and lock the door. Tell him to piss off back to his mothers. If he kicks off phone the police- he is being emotionally abusive.

Then do as the poster above suggests and ask the landlord for a single tenancy.

__”ScabbyBabby

Just chuck all of his stuff out and lock the door. Tell him to piss off back to his mothers. If he kicks off phone the police- he is being emotionally abusive.

Then do as the poster above suggests and ask the landlord for a single tenancy.“

What stupid advice.

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Have read the post twice and can see no mention of holidays. I know it's late but are you on the right thread?

@RamblinRosie

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