Should I message him now in corona

[lovedays2020]

Hello will try and keep this very brief - my ex broke up with me last summer. We dated for a year. I was pretty distraught so was he. 2 months later he contacted me, wanted to be friends, started messaging all the time. I soon realised I couldn’t do it and told him this that I still loved him. He looked and sounded incredibly upset about the situation but was clear he didn’t want to get back together. I said that was fine but I would have to block him on everything and he could email me if he needed to get in contact.

Since then I’ve not heard from him. It’s been about 3 months. I wondered whether I should message him to see if his dad is ok. Is this a stupid idea? His dad was old and had some breathing difficulties. I don’t want to make his life difficult or to upset him if hearing from me would cause that.

I’ve been wondering if I should for a few days. But maybe the answer is obvious.

If you go 'is your dad ok?' or something like that, aren't you risking kind of rubbing it in that his dad might end up not ok?

I agree with those PP's who've said you intended to put this behind you, as he hurt you- keep it that way.

If you're nosey, you can always look at all his SM using an alternate account. [grim]

I mean lol

Ha! I actually can’t bear to look at his social media account as I just don’t trust myself not to feel gutted. So actually I think that says it all. I won’t be contacting him. I remember back to when I went NC and it was because I wanted someone who wanted to be with me not someone I had to persuade. You’re all right. His dad is not my responsibility and I’m sure he’ll be fine. I’ll move on and put it behind me.