When to remove online profile

[enigma18]

I’ve been seeing someone from a dating site for a few weeks. Met up about 5 times for drinks, food, etc and seems to be going well.
I’m happy not to chat to any new people as things are going well. I log on quickly most evenings though just to see if he’s online - and he is. I’m not sure what to do.
We text on and off all evening so I’m a bit unhappy he could be chatting to others at the same time.
Any thoughts?

If its only been a few weeks then it may be a bit early to have the exclusivity chat. He's not supposed to be dating anyone now anyway with the new social distance rules so you don't have to worry about that.

Maybe he is logging on every night just to see if you are.

Keep dating as he most certainly is.

That’s true re the social distancing!
After how long do people normally have the exclusivity chat?,

Bump

I've been seeing someone new for around 8 weeks and I brought up the topic of being on the app still and we both agreed keep the account but hide it and delete it from the phone that way the account is still there but we don't use it and we see where this leads x

Don't stop dating until you are a serious couple. I think our way of dating has made women settle far too easily.
One dating reddit site suggests only stopping actually dating other men when engaged, and I must say that I agree!

Women need to be so much more harsh in our selectivity.

A few weeks and 5 dates is nothing. I came off it around 3 months after meeting my DP, though I stopped dating other men after about 2 months - not deliberately- I just wasn’t interested enough in anyone else.

Thanks for your replies. He seems keen on me and we text every day so I guess I have to see how it goes. I have no plans to see anyone else though - not at the moment anyway!
How

Did any of you wait to sleep together until after the “exclusive chat”?!

This is all a bit weird for me, I come from an age where I would expect to be exclusive from the first date ( assuming it had went well and a second was on the cards).
But this is a new age and I understand that ideals have changed. You need to have the conversation, so you are both on the same page.

If you want to be exclusive than tell him, if you want to see other people, I think you should tell him that too. Its both your responsibility to keep good communication (and I would be saying the same to him if he had written in).
Don't keep dating just because you think he is- this is a stupid suggestion and will just result in a tit for tat relationship based on ignorance.
Also if you keep dating till you get engaged, than do not ever expect to ever get engaged. I don't think anyone would put up with that ( I definitely wouldn't and I don't know anyone who would).

Join the dating thread you will get good advice on there. It's unlikely he is checking to see if you are online every night. Personally I don't think it's ever too early to be clear on what the state of play is between you. So no need to be scared of asking the question about dating others. Even more important in these times I think. I wouldn't be sleeping with anyone without understanding his daily contacts right now. Dating or otherwise.

My bf and I had the chat after our first date but we knew we liked each other and wanted to give each other our full attention. I was never looking for multiple dating and neither was he.

We also both 'hid' our online profiles after first date too. I deleted my other ones soon after but kept my account on Bumble as I wanted to keep all our initial chats. It's not active though.

Personally, I am all for telling someone what you want/expect early on. If he doesn't feel the same then you know nice and early.

Thanks for the replies - I can’t find the “dating” thread. Could someone send a link please?

I didn't go online after our first date. Not sure about him but as we saw each other 6/7 days the first week he didn't have much time. I know he texted another couple of women he'd been trying to set up dates with to say he'd found me 😄. And we deleted after 6 days. That was 19 months ago. So it can work. I suppose it depends what both your expectations are. I'm 56 by the way, he is 61.