Is this abusive

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I've been seeing a guy on and off for a few months. If he acts in a way I feel is bad and call him out he will do two things

1. he will give me the silent treatment until he deems he has 'calmed down' enough to speak to me and
2. he will try and massively guilt me. For instance a discussion about why he just decided to ignore me for days on an Will cumulate in him dropping some bombshell about his past somehow that is 'really traumatic' and then he blames me for 'upsetting him all over again' This cannot be normal right?

At first I felt awful when he would ignore me and tell me how much I'd upset him. I would need to be the one to reach out and smooth things over
Now the mask has been lifted from my eyes I realise it was all part of his game to try and control and punish me. I don't feel sad about this potential relationship ending I feel bloody relieved to not be with such a fucked up human being

Good woman OP, you will have learned from this. 👍👏

Sadly I have a public work number and email so wouldn't be at all surprised if he tries that

I think you could also block him on both of these.