No contact 2 weeks & now blocked?

[LillyJean1]

Hi... So cut the story short. I've had no contact with my ex how for 15 days. We do have a child together however this was advised to me by woman's aid due to ongoing abuse. We are going through contact agreement for our daughter. Ex is also an alcoholic so it's looking like it's going to start in a contact centre.

The story is a lot bigger than that but I'm just focusing on the no contact here.

Although I felt like I was doing well not contacting him (he also hasn't contacted be aside one time) there is the odd day I have a heavy heart and wish it was different but remind myself that this is for our daughter and the long term for him to gain help and be a better dad for her.

What's your thoughts on him how blocking me on WhatsApp after 15 days no contact. I haven't tried to contact me so why would he block me?

I know I shouldn't be concerned by it but in situations like this I over think everything.

Anyone been in similar situations?

He might have done it when he was drunk?

He's trying to regain some power over you/the situation. It's petty. You won't speak to him so he does something that says 'Hmmf. I don't even want to speak to you anyway.' Like a petulant teenager.

Don't do or say ANYTHING in response. Your continued silence is your dignity.

He's trying to regain some power over you/the situation. It's petty. You won't speak to him so he does something that says 'Hmmf. I don't even want to speak to you anyway.' Like a petulant teenager.

This. And also to probably stop himself from checking if you're online / have changed your picture etc. Poor you, sounds like you've had a tough time of it

Yeah I think your right. I am definitely keeping my silence as nothing good comes out of contact. I thought maybe the no contact and the shifting contact arrangements through a legal route to minimise the battle between us and to highlight the issue to him that our child needs to remain safe would urge him to get some help and shock him into learning his daughters priorities but he has taken no action to change anything in his life, I know it is early days but time is precious if he is to try and establish a better relationship with his daughter.

Instead it's this immature response because he can't control the situation.

OP abusive relationships are a roller coaster of emotions and that can become addictive. Every time you speak to him, you get a kind of hit like a drug and you need to go cold turkey and wean yourself off him.

Find something else to do such as post on this thread every time you want to contact him. I'm really pleased to hear that you've in contact with WA and working on your situation and you're right, you can't have your daughter around an abusive drunk. That's just awful for a child.

Supervised contact sounds like the way to go. In the meantime, perhaps read up on abusive relationships, look online at Youtube videos on abusive dynamics and work on your self esteem.

I would advise support groups like the Freedom Programme but with the 'lock down' don't know if there are any running right now.

Well he'll be doing it to punish you and/or to control/headfuck you.

But it doesn''t matter why he's doing it and you need to stop agonising over it. You can't control him, but you can control yourself and your reaction. You need to give a metaphorical shrug and carry on building your life.

He's abusive, and he 'll ramp up the abuse how you've left him and he's losing his grip on you.