Self isolation when you are in toxic marriage

[sleepyhorse]

In the midst of this horrendous virus and following pm’s new guidelines of staying at home more, how will those who are trapped in bad, toxic or abusive relationships cope?

Morning, can you not agree that you need space and how to negotiate the space between you.
Thankfully my toxic ex moved out!
You can also go upstairs if he’s downstairs and the opposite, cook at separate times.
No easy solution.
Very difficult times ahead.

You can’t do anything if they don’t see fault with their behaviour only yours. I think many are just hoping they don’t need to isolate. I know I am.

Very hard times

There’s going to be a huge spike in DV. A police friend of mine said that apart from maintaining isolation rules, they will be a dv service as there will be no other types of crime.

I'm worried for the people stuck at home with violent or emotionally abusive partners.
This would've been hell for me.
One of my ex's tricks was locking me in and abusing me. If the power of not choosing to lock me in had been taken off him god knows what he would've done.

I think there really needs to be a system whereby if the police are called out for DV, if one person is considered a risk to the other, that person is removed and told to stay somewhere else (and electronically tagged to make sure they do) or they will be locked up. Highly doubt it'll happen but we can hope.

This is going to put huge strain on people with already strained relationships. Being stuck in a house with someone with nerves strained and finances tanking...its going to be tough.

Personally, I'm trying to think of ways of managing it.

I came in here to post the same. Both of us have been told to work from home from tomorrow for 2-4 weeks. I am absolutely dreading it ... can’t stand weekends at the moment, and this is going to be like one big long weekend! Hopefully the kids will stay at school so they don’t have to be around him too.

If it is that bad perhaps this will be the catelist needed to end/change the situation.

Every weekend used to be like this for me. I’m not sure how I’d have coped during this time.
I’m never more grateful to have got out. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but now I’m through it the best decision I’ve ever made for myself xx

Stay in separate rooms and don't engage in talk. It would help if you have more than one TV.

Stay in separate rooms

With some of these guys you just can't do that, @Lynda07.

If only the solution to DV were to stay in separate rooms or have more than one TV .

How exactly would you 'negotiate space' with an abuser?

Some people's lives are a living Hell. Their only respite is when they leave the house. God help anyone who is locked in with their abuser.