My sex drive is non-existent for over a year..anyone feeling the same?

[PSCMUM]

I feel so awful on my dh. we used to have lots of ahem good times together, and were very ahem again, creative. And now, he still wants to be, and i just cannot be arsed. Every day i think, right tonight, I'm going to have sex with him again, I'm going to initiate it and everything, and then we get into bed and all i want to do is sleep. or maybe masturbate. but never actually have sex. altough sometimes we do have sex, when i just think, right, this is ridiculous, sex is nice, just start it and then you'll like it - and I do. but then another 2 week gap before i can get it together to do it again. After so many discussions about WHY and not wanting to put pressure on my etc, DH is just terrified to initiate anything at all incase it turns into a crisis! I'd love some moral support and a flood of posts saying 'yes, thats happening to me to' . I know I'm v optimistic!

Do you know, once a fortnight would be considered quite good going by a lot of people.

How old are your children?

8, 4 and 2.

Thanks for reading btw.

really re 2 weeks?! i don't know - but its not reasonable for us, well it is now, its our normal standard thing now, but up to a year ago even after last dc born, it was twice a night, and whenever we could get away with it. hope thats not our lot!

Are you on any medications? Including birth control?

the pill is a great dampner

i've had a coil for i think about a year, but i cannot remember if the sex drive problem was before or after i had it fitted. i suppose i could have it removed and see

Progesten, the same hormone used in the Mirena coil, killed my sex drive entirely.

And everyone here knows what a slag I am.

Severe PND didn't even touch my libido.

But progesten knocked it stone dead.

Needless to say, I got off that crap!

I suspect Depovera injection of ruining mine. PSCMUM, I feel EXACTLY the same as you do, especially the bit where you think 'Right, tonight...'!

really expat??god, i didn't know that - how annoying! the irony is that before I had a coil, we had this theoretical idea that we would use condoms / the pill, but i always forgot to take it, and we never ever bothered actually using the condoms, despite them being right next to our bed, when it came to it, and so I must currently hold the world record for highest number of morning after pills consumed by amother of 3! and so now i;ve sorted that out, and got myself allowed to have sex again - I don't want to!
right, think must get coil taken out as was also total slag and found this v much more fun than being boring born again virgin.

i came off the pill. suddenly i felt horny again albeit only for 2 weeks a month

but it is worth it bloody pill

i need to take out coil, but then i KNOW i will get preggers again. And really don't want to. But, I know, I 'll just use some other contraception, like normal people!

Thanks feenie for your post - good to know others are feeling the same!

Sometimes I feel so bad on dh, he is so gorgeous, and yet having sex with him has not only become another thing on my list of things to do, it has become the LAST thing on my list of things to do. HE is even beaten by washing.

i just read the other thread on this posted a few days ago. seems this is not an unual topic here! thats good to know. maybe we should just all allow our dh's / dp's t o shag other people? this would be much less tiring. And i could keep my lovely coil without any periods.