What should i do?..

[Confusedd92]

Met a lovely female in November 2019, we fell for each other very fast and we was spending a lot of time together.. we had an argument which lead to us breaking up in January 2020.

Since then we have been talking a lot and meeting up weekly, but when ever i say can we be official or i ask about getting back, she simply says dont ruin it. She just wants to hang out, have sex (no sleep overs) and day trips etc, but she says she doesn't want a relationship.

I love her very much, and have done everything in my power to try to get her back, but i just cant have a heart to heart conversation with her, she says "its too much" or " dont ruin it" or " this is what makes me want to lock you off" ... im stuck, and i dont know what to do anymore.

I dont want to walk away as it will hurt like crazy.. but at the same time i dont want to feel like just a friend with benefits kind of thing.

She did say everything we are doing is for a reason, as in spending alot of time together and talking a lot .. but what happens if i continue doing what were doing to only be hurt all over again if she still doesn't want a relationship with me at the end?

can i get some advice please? thank you.

Also i said whats going on with us the other day, and she said what do you mean, there is no us..? which made me think is this all just for nothing.

'A lovely female's haha
'oooh female' inbetweeners flashback lol

Listen, she has said she doesn't want a relationship. What part of that isn't getting through?

I mean she felt the need to say 'there is no us'. Which is harsh af but clearly she felt you were not getting the message.

She should really be decent and finish things with you totally. But I mean c'mon mate, take responsibility for protecting yourself and walk away.

Also, you sound a little too attached for a 5 month thing that seems like it's been nothing but drama. Did she 'love bomb' you in the beginning?

Anyway, sorry but she just isn't that into you. And even if she could have been, you are coming in too strong and freaking her the feck out. Love? You barely know her!! I think you need to give your head a wobble and step back from this. It isn't going to end well otherwise.

Have you been on before? Seems like a regular thread you're doing.

She’s not lying to you. She has told you explicitly what she wants. You either accept that and continue with the current status quo, or if it’s not enough for you, you end things and free yourself to have a more typical relationship with someone else. There is no middle ground here no matter how much you want it to exist.

Thanks, i guess your right.. i think i should take a step back :) The love thing is mutual.. we both say it.. which i guess is why im a little confused as to where its going. but you are right.. i may of came on too strong. Thanks for the advice, i appreciate it.

My advice She us trying to let you down gently. Leave...