My Mother...

[Mercurial123]

I was diagnosed with cancer ten years ago and recently found out I had a gene mutation. My mum had cancer in her early 40's. She's always told me she had Breast Cancer now she calmly tells me she had lymphoma instead. She doesn't see what the big deal is as it's still cancer. I give up.

Can you elaborate on this a little more?

It does sound like a final straw moment but unsure about what you are saying

My mum always claimed she had breast cancer, telling me she was on Tamoxifen for five years. Only years after my treatment she turns around and says she had lymphoma. My mum is dysfunctional and constantly plays the martyr. She thinks she hasn't done anything wrong.

For ten years I've been telling my medical team my mum got diagnosed with BC at an early age. That's one of the reasons I got tested for the gene mutation. Now I have to tell them she gave wrong information.

Which version do you think is the right one? If you've been found to have a gene, is it a BC related one (  BTW),? Could she have changed her story now, knowing that you've had cancer too, to maximise the drama?

She's a very silly woman , you'd think after her own experience she would know how important the correct information is.
What a thing to lie about !
You are completely justified in being angry with her.
Are you confident her latest version of events is the correct one ?
Don't be embarrassed to explain the situation, lots of us have crazy family members, it absolutely does not reflect badly on you .

The were lost in transit - here they are

I wouldn't worry too much - you won't be the first who has had incorrect info from family. Just let your medical team know, and they'll tell you if you need any extra testing, or if it's just useful info.

The hospital were very understanding when they asked about my mother's medical history and I just had to say, "don't really know..." It's often useful to know family history, but many people won't know it for all sorts of reasons.

Thank you for the responses. I'm guessing she had lymphoma. I'm angry but I don't think I have the energy to talk to her about it. Yes, it's a breast cancer/colon gene mutation Chek2.

Thanks, I shouldn't be embarrassed about my mum's lies. I'm not responsible for her behaviour.