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Meg321 · 15/03/2020 17:36

I started a relationship 6 years ago. There were many ups and downs (mainly downs). We were off and on. It couldn't continue and I ended it. Due to the fact he is all alone (maybe not because he doesn't tell me much),he says he doesn't do anything or see anybody, I kept in touch as a friend. I have had to remind him that I am just there as a friend. Wouldn't see him very often but it has become less often. He was quite I'll at one point but seemed much better of late.
He has a heart problem, COPD, doesn't exercise, doesn't eat well and drinks too much.
The last time I saw him he'd invited me for dinner but when I got there he hadn't prepared anything. He did do a bacon and egg bap.
I haven't heard off him since. I have texted if he is OK and if he needed to go shopping. I was taking him shopping since he lost his licence for drink driving.
He is 65.
To be honest I find him difficult and annoying (why the relationship didn't work).
Although I am happy not too see him I find it difficult to abandon someone who doesn't appear to have anyone else.
He may have found someone else. He may just not want to be in n contact with me any more or my worry is he got n such a bad way and needs help. How on earth do I approach this?

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Fairycake2 · 15/03/2020 18:07

Personally I wouldn't make any further contact. It sounds like you've tried and he's clearly ignoring you. However, if you're worried could you contact a family member, say your concerned and leave it for them to get in touch?

Meg321 · 15/03/2020 22:00

Thought of doing that. He has a daughter who lives the other end of the country and a son who lives abroad. He sees neither of them although his son calls him occasionally. I could message his daughter but don't want to cause unnecessary concern.

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