He's just in it for the sex isn't he?

[Louise000000]

Seeing a new man for 5 months now and due to my situation with just separating from my husband I last summer, the majority of our dates took place at each others houses.
Now I'm suggesting going out places or away for a night and he never seems interested. He doesn't ask me any questions about myself, he's very closed emotionally so hasn't said how he feels about me without me prompting him, He's very enthusiastic about the sex and says it's the best he's ever had etc am I being a mug here? He just wants fwb right?

Did you post here recently ,regarding telling him you had feelings for him and he brushed them aside ?(Not a critisim ,just interested thats all BTW) Is he scared about committing himself, or do you think he is a closed off person in general ? Do you ask him why he doesnt want to go anywhere? (May not need to ask this question soon if we get locked down of course)! Maybe hes scared of being hurt again ,or just wants to be casual .FWB is fine if you are happy with that kind of relationship ,if not I would maybe have a look elsewhere if you cant get any answers

Just stop seeing him and move on. He will not change. Plenty of uncomplicated fwb out there if that is what you want.

@dottiedodah yes did. I said i have feelings for him and he made a joke. He doesn't make it clear how he feels about me but he is clear about sex!

It's unkind to make a joke about your feelings, he's trivialising and dismissing things that are important to you, he should be honest and admit that you both have incompatible expectations of the set-up and then then you can have a conversation with him about how best to deal with this discrepancy.

I was in a relationship like this recently... I split for different reasons. Also had no kids etc. So I think I tolerated it a little bit more because it was a 'good excuse'. I guess if you're happy with the situation see how it plays out. If you're not nip it in the bud!

Avoidant.

Bin.

It sounds like he is keen on the Sex , and maybe wants a no strings type of set up .Maybe some people may be happy with that ,but most women will like to have an emotional connection (and men too) .Obviously your trump card would be to tell him you are not happy with things as they are .This is risky though as 1) may be upset at splitting and up his game or 2) Just call it a day ! If he has been single and childless as well for some time he may be a bit set in his ways .Either way time for a chat and see what the position is Good Luck!

I think the main question here isn't what he wants. It's what YOU want. And is this relationship giving you that. Making a joke after you expressed feelings is belittling and not a good sign.

Put you and your needs first.