Husband wants a divorce

[Ragdoll545]

Please help! I dont know where to turn.
My husband hasnt been himself for a few months.
We are first time buyers and have been desperately waiting to buy a house for years. Saving hard etc. We finally put an offer on a house yesterday and he immediately starts acting totally weird and out of character.
He was talking about divorce almost immediately after hearing our offer was accepted. He has mentioned divorce a few times over the last few weeks.
I went to a friends house tonight and come home and hes completely drunk.
He admitted he has feelings for someone else but swears he hasnt done anything.
He says we should still go through with he house buy he just wont live with us anymore.
What do I do?
I want this house. My children want this house. I thought he did too. I need to house my children.
How messy could this get?

I agree get advice make sure ur assets are safe and go from there but don’t trust him

Thank you.
He was also saying how he was convinced I was cheating on him
I havent ever
It's just so text book like trying to make it all my fault

Get proper legal advice ASAP but first thing tomorrow :
Call the agents and either withdraw the offer or explain you may need more time as you need to get a mortgage re-offered
Call the company who offered the mortgage, and ask if they will make an offer based on you now being single

Your current living situation, is that through your family or his?

My family

How are you @Ragdoll545 ?

Hope you do the right thing for you and your family

Not great to be honest. He's coming back later tonight to talk but I don't really want to talk. I know I have to.
I logged into his facebook and could see messages to his friend. He seems more concerned about her than me. It seems she isn't talking to him at the moment either so not sure what's going on.
I have told him he has to be honest and not lie but I know from his message replies to me that he has been sending that he will lie to me.

Just take everything with a pinch of salt. Don’t let him lull him into a false sense security which is probably what he wants. Don’t give away any of your thoughts and don’t agree with anything just say you need to think about it. If you need to talk I’m here

He's coming back later tonight to talk but I don't really want to talk. I know I have to

You don't have to. Don't let him in.

If you feel that there is a point to communicate further, make sure it's via Skype or Facetime.

You do not have to do anything you are do not want to do.

He is completely following the script and afraid he might have lost both his options.

How old are the children?

That’s true you don’t have to talk to him but if you do just be wary and just find out his hand and keep your cards to yourself

Thank you all! Kids are 7 and 2

So they are young enough not to damage them with the split if it’s handled like grown ups

OP just wanted to say you seem wonderful and I am sorry this is happening to you! You have an amazing clear head and I am so impressed with how you're dealing with it. Stay strong - your kids are very lucky to have an amazing mum!

Probably not the best timing to be going through a divorce when we are about to go into lockdown?

That’s true but it will give you more time to plan what you want so when lockdown is lifted you can act

Ah thanks so much for the nice words. I like to think im a good person and i dont think I deserve it. Just gotta stay strong but really not looking forward to having to speak to him but need to get it out of the way.