OLD - when men who you think are out of your league swipe on you.

[Daet]

Have been OLD for a month or so. I guess it’s the age old story of getting plenty of interest but mostly from unsuitable, for one reason or another, men. I do occasionally see men I really am attracted to. Mostly I pass on by thinking I’ll have no hope but if I’m feeling brave I’ll swipe. Nine times out of ten, they don’t match back.

Even more occasionally, men who I think are good prospects in every way swipe right but I can’t convince myself I’m good enough! Am in the very early stages of a convo with one such man, and I’m just thinking “why me?”

I don’t ever consider people to be not good enough for me, but I can’t convince myself that I’m good enough for them! I’m old enough to know better but self esteem has always been an issue.

Talk me round lovely folks :).

I swiped on this guy who was very hot, interesting, cool job/ hobbies. I thought he was way too cool for me.

We chatted, then met. He was nice and just human with all normal flaws, just like me. He looked like his pic, but less ‘god-like’ than I originally thought. He was interesting, but not nearly as ‘intimidatingly cool’ as I first thought.

Unfortunately it didn’t work out but it made me realise that profiles really are us just putting our best sides out there. All those super attractive guys you are scared to talk to will have their own hang ups and concerns too. And it’s just as likely they are not good enough for you, actually.

I had one totally hot younger guy swipe right on me. After a couple of initial messages he wanted to come round "for a drink" and refused to meet anywhere except my place. Think he assumed I'd be flattered as he was young and hot - and so I'd be up for sex straight away. How unattractive - blocker him.

Thank you both for your replies. Agree/identify with what you’ve both said but find it difficult to put it into practice!

Mostly I pass on by thinking I’ll have no hope but if I’m feeling brave I’ll swipe.

Are we talking about Tinder? Surely the whole point of the swiping system is that they will only know if you like them if they also swipe on you?