Over it....

[Idontkowmyname]

Just beyond sick of dh’s behaviour. He’s a condescending dismissive arsehole and I’ve had it. Other threads have spoken about the ick and I think I’m there, I can’t stand him at the minute and he’s even started getting the older dc to join in with the attacks. I’m torn apart by him and portrayed as the person who “spoils the fun” and ruins things all when he doesn’t get his way.

Time to think about making the break OP. xx

@NoMoreDickheads I know I will need to leave I’m just sadly not in a position to do so at the moment. I just got to the point this evening that I wanted to get out the car and walk home rather than be stuck in the car with him. I’m not allowed to say I’m sick of it when it comes to his behaviour. In his mind he can do no wrong or very little wrong. He will make out that me being upset or angry is about something inconsequential rather than the cumulative effect of the previous 100’s of jibes, dismissals and snide comments. There’s no talking to him, I just feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall trying to get him to understand. No idea if he’s incapable of understanding the impact of his behaviour or if he gets kicks out of being an arsehole.

So what's the exit plan? It would probably be helpful to you emotionally to start taking steps, so you can see a light at the end of the tunnel.

@category12 For financial reasons I’m going to need to play a long game of around a year, unless the situation escalated and I need to get out sooner.
I think I’ll also touch base with lawyer and get some advice to see where I stand and determine if there is anything I need to do or avoid. I made the step recently of speaking to a close friend and getting a recommendation.
It really doesn’t help that my family think the sun shines out of his arse and he can do no wrong. Spoke to my mum a few years ago when things were not great and I felt like I had no support whatsoever. I can’t imagine if any of my dc came to me that I wouldn’t have their back and support them no matter what. Both her and dh are of the mindset that as he doesn’t hit me I should count myself lucky.