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Waking up in the morning to end this once and for all

28 replies

Pissedoff888 · 12/03/2020 23:50

Been with my partner just over two years I fell pregnant with twins and I have my own dc. Things were rushed from the start but I did believe he loved me as much as he said but alas I was wrong. Since the babies were born I have found him messaging an ex he said it was because of the stress we were under. I’ve noticed he tells a lot of lies even over simple things.

The icing on the cake tonight was him making a lewd comment in his work whatsapp chat to a girl who he has slept with. I am done. My exh cheated on me and I’m not prepared to wait about on this one doing the same.

I feel like a shit mum to my eldest already and the two of them adore each other but I am fed up! When I confronted him tonight he just attacked my character called me a physco then said how ugly I was and that my fat flabby belly will put any man off me in future (I have NO interest in another man ever I’m done now)

He then kicked me as I went to take one of the babies as he was drunk and he was holding her uncomfortably. Then when I went to take the baby again he thumped my wrist which is now throbbing. I would love to leave tonight but I have no where to go. Even tomorrow I don’t know where I can go but I am so done. I am by no means a wonderful person but I am respectful and loyal.

I am right leaving Aren’t I? My kids hopefully won’t hate me

OP posts:
anotherdisaster · 13/03/2020 13:17

Please let us know you're ok. You need to get away from this awful man. He is physically abusive. You're kids would not thank you for staying with such a brute - get out for THEIR sake as well as your own.

RLEOM · 13/03/2020 19:58

My ex was just like him bar the drinking and physical side. No good comes from men like him. Whether you call the police or not, you need to leave.

12345kbm · 13/03/2020 20:09

OP you are 100% right to leave and I'm really sorry that you've ended up in another abusive relationship.

What's going on now? You say you don't know where you'll go, what's your situation?

Contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247 which is run in conjunction with Women's Aid and Refuge. If you need somewhere to flee, hopefully Refuge will find you somewhere.

If not OP, don't tell him you want to leave as this may escalate the abuse. Pack some bags for yourself and the children and hide them in the house or at a safe place where you can access them. Read up on how to make a Safety Plan.

You may be able to get an Occupation Order to get him out of the house and a Non Molestation Order, to keep him from hurting you. You can contact the NCDV for more details.

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